I can not choose between 2 guys.?

I know, every girl wants this problem but I don't. I don't like long winded questions but these is a problem where the details need to be told.

I have been dating this one guy we shall call him Joe, for 3 years. He is sweet and caring but basically a person who wants to stay a child. He was my High school sweetheart from Junior year to my second year in college. I love him but his father hates me. How he can hate someone who has a job, doesn't drink or do drugs and gets good grades is beyond me but he does. It is very important to me to get along and love my inlaws because I never grew up with a family.

Move on to guy number 2 BOB, I met him online in 8th grade and we have been talking on the phone EVERYDAY since (6 years). I recently visted him over the summer and fell head over heels and ended up sleeping with him. The sex was amazing, and his family immediately fell in love with me. I like the people where he lives much better and was really happy out there. However he is still attending college, is a mama's boy (meaning his parents are paying for his college) and is completely fincially illerate. Plus I feel like I am scarficing for him and he won't do the same for me.

So I come back and have a choice to make. Both guys are sweet and caring though Bob is a little selfish. He doesn't spoil me like Joe but Joe doesn't wear that pants in the relationship and I hate that.

I want Bob and was planning on giving up my apartment, job, and having my college paid for to go move out there with him for a semester. I would be away from all of my family, jobless, and almost 20 grand in debt. Which I can deal with because it is a better school but the more time I spend with Joe that move I relaize how much I love him too. He is defently the safe choice but I don't know who will make me happy in the long run.

I'm to the point I just want someone to tell me what to do, Ive been up everynight for the last 2 weeks crying my eyes out because I don't know what to do. I honestly don't deserve eaither of them.