how to make a serious change?

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Self-Directed Victory

By Generalist

I looked for a system of thought that did not depend on delivered truth. I wanted to win in my challenges and end frustration, change my worlds- The Inner world, The Immediate World and the Outer World. To do this, I didn’t trust any strategy other than the one based on my own true self. Like most people, I am constantly bombarded with messages to buy, vote, and work, believe and rarely encouraged to examine for myself. Establishments had lied too much for me to believe anything coming from them. After discarding all the non-verifiable assumptions, I found that these few simple truths remained.

1-Everything is always changing. The time scales vary, but nothing is constant.

2-Causes produce effects. Sometimes this is not obvious and there is a choice about choosing to believe in gods who can suspend cause-effect, or sticking with the pragmatically observable.

3-Life is both physical and non-physical. The human body is just a bag of mostly water without the intangibles like life, hope, identity, consciousness.

4-I needed some way to organize these observations into a usable code.

At an SGI-USA meeting, I found out that the above points had been summarized as Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, in Japan, by the monk Nichiren in the 13th century.

I started to try reciting the formula while sitting upright and facing a copy of the mandala inscribed by Nichiren. This activity is so high octane that it took some time to discard my cynicism, even when I got phenomenal results in my life. I later found that joining with others enhances the effectiveness and gets me a big source of potential friends. It's one thing to be smart and frustrated; it is another to decide to try an extremely effective method of arranging the world to delete the need for frustration.

Even though I had felt safer with contemplation than with learning something new, and working toward results, winning is better than frustration.

Source(s):

My own experiences as a result of reciting the formula and working with the SGI for peace, culture and happiness

http://www.sgi.org/

DAMN !!!!!

Okay first off your 16 your diet is consistant with your age, while your metabolism is high your cool .. 5 years from now if you continue to smoke and eat the same way your body will show the affect. But lets put the dietary change on the back burner, you can only do so much at once and i have a feeling if you try to change everything you feel is wrong in your life at once your going to get really stressed out and end up worse then when you started. Smoking although lowering your athletic performance can be a useful stress relief medication. And with the challenges your going to face in this changing you want to accomplish you might wanna smoke. Your grades i think would be the first challenge to tackle, since you dont overly socailize or have a job, study time should be easy enough to find right? Know i know what your thinking , the bullshit they teach is bullshit, or wont have any impact in your life after school. I mean really unless your going into engineering what do you need trig for? or algebra for that matter right? Of course engineers make BIG figures so you might wanna think about it. But that would be the first thing i would work on because its pure mentality it doesnt effect your physiology, Think of it like a stepping stone for the other changes you want to make. But work on that one thing for the year. Then you'll be ready to tackle a summer job, if thats what you wanna do.

But one thing at a time, you dont need to add anymore pressure to your sitcho. Taking care of your grades will adjust your parents thoughts, look better on a college app. and do wonders for your future. Plus its the easier of the tasks ahead of you with a kick azz avalanche effect.

Well the first step to bettering your life is acknowledging that you want to.

If it makes you feel any better, occasionally I think back to what crappy teenage years I had, but it's actually one of the few bad things in my life I can't really get resentful about because when you think about it, it's pretty common to have crappy teenage years.

What matters is whether or not you eventually pull yourself out of it. When you're a teenager, there's actually a lot of people willing to help you do this.

If you have good parents you should approach them about this. If you're parents aren't approachable, make an appointment with the school psychologist (Yes, your school district DOES have a psychologist, and they get paid to help you). Use these very words. "I know I'm a loser and I want to change that but I need help." And then tell them everything you told us here. I know. It sounds corny and lame but this is how you have to talk to adults. The school psychologist is actually a powerful person to have on your side. They can hook you up with programs that will give you opportunities to explorer career options, and can arrange for you to have learning disability testing which might allow you accommodations such as extended test time and tutoring. They can also help you get counseling for depression and guidance in social skill development.

Of course any changes you make will require effort on your part. You have to be the driving force in your life. I might seem intimidating but it isn't really that hard. For example, if you need to exercise more, go for a walk for an hour a day. Don't think about how much you don't want to go, just go out the door and start walking.

best thing that happened to me was i got a job and said okay this will be a new and improved me. it has helped greatly, and same for sports or even just go to the gym you will feel awesome after and want to make more progression to positive changes like eating better. If there is a sport that interests you join it, you'll learn a skill and meet people just dont go in with an attitude.

stop harmful activities like smoking and bad habits doing un wanted things at this age.

have strong dedication to concentrate studies or working hard for the future development.

face challenges and try to overcome all your problems and try to gain your parents support by doing their expected things and your level of confidence should be improved by analysing your time spent for the studies and career improvement.

stop worrying for the past start thinking to make changes seriously

Have some initiative, try reminding yourself everyday to do certain things, plan out things, etc.

join a youth group