Boyfriend doesn't want to tell people we're dating..?

Loving someone is great. Wanting something from them is also great, but they are independent thinkers and have free will. If your kind words and gestures don't get him to respect you, don't feel it is something wrong in you.

Also remember, most habits are hard to break.

Fairly typical for a young girl -- falling for a d-bag who treats her like dirt and she doesn't even know why she likes him. And the harder he pushes you away, the harder you chase. You could just find a nice guy who is straightforward and appreciates you and treats you nicely, but noooooooooooo, that would be too boring and predictable, wouldn't it. Instead, you need to "tame the beast" and work for his respect, even though he'll never give it to you. You have nobody to blame for your predicament but yourself, my dear. You can't control him, you never will be able to. You can only control how you respond to him emotionally if you get out of your emotional head and into your logical head. Right now you are like a cat and he is dangling the string in front your face just out of reach, and you love trying to catch the string in your paws. If he were a nice guy and just let you have the string, you would become bored and would look elsewhere for something (another guy) to chase.

One day when you grow old you will look back and realize what a fool you were for chasing the jerks all along, and you'll wish you could go back and do it all over again. Sorry to sound harsh, but I'm a lot older than you and have been around the block enough times to know what makes people behave the way they do.

Don't let your emotions rule your life. If you for a moment pretended that you had no emotions -- like a robot -- and purely acted upon *logic*, you would be out of that relationship before tomorrow.

Wow i recognize precisely what your dealing with. i've got been with my cutting-edge boyfriend because of the fact the ninth grade and we are the two graduating this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. Ever considering we had broke up some months in the past, he does not placed my call on his signature he does not invite me over whilst his acquaintances are there... So he wont tell them approximately me? i don't comprehend why I placed up with it the two, and that i'm actual no longer grotesque I merely love him, yet its like even that doesn't count.. solid success to you </3

There's no way to 'make' him respect you. I think if he doesn't care enough about your feelings after so long, what's the point? You obviously don't want to end up marrying him and being miserable and he won't change if you stay together. There's just no possible way. When two people are together for so long, they fall into a groove that just leads to an awful and long path. (Yes, I'm speaking from experience.) If you do want to marry him one day, or just end up with him in life, you need to let him go. As cliche as that sounds, it's true. You both need to grow as your own person without being tied down. As for not being able to see him with another girl, talk to him about it. And if he does it just to shove it in your face, ask a hot guy friend to come in and flirt with you. Yeah it's a little petty, but it's a great way to save face.

You make him respect you by demanding respect!

By accepting keeping your relationship a secret, you have degraded yourself and have let him know you don't require respect from him.

The only way to get him to respect you is for you to start respecting yourself and telling youself - and him - that a real relationship is one where the guy proudly proclaims you are his and treats you like you're the most valuable thing to him, in front of his friends and when youre alone.

Sounds like to me he is taking you for granted because you've taken him back so many times. It's a habit, he knows he can get away with whatever and you "love him" so you will take him back on his terms.

I say HECK NO. Tell him off and find someone who will treat you like gold. That's what you deserve.

Something is not right. Maybe he broke up with you last time because of his friends. Or maybe there is another girl that he doesn't want to know you guys got back together.

It's not cool for him just to walk away from you just because he's around his friends. I wouldn't tolerate being completely disrespected like that. If he doesn't start appreciating you, REAL quick, you need to move on.

After you broke up the last time, were you crying and pressuring him to get back with you? Maybe he isn't ready to be with you, but feels guilty making you upset.

You can't make him respect you. He either does or doesn't. He is using you as a fall back when things are not going well with him. It's time to move on. Most guys that young don't understand or want commitment. Find someone else, pretty girl! He is not treating you right and you deserve better.

ok one thing i can tell u is u guys keep breaking up because he is preasured by people around probally if hes putting his friends before u then thats a big issue. people now dont seem to understand that a realationship is something that u want to stick with for awhile. they just go out and date and break up. but look just go and talk to him and get whats on his mind, or kinda show off a lil more infront of his friends cuz if hes always listenin to them and u make his friends see how hot u are or how cool u are their gonna go back to him and like dude shes so hot and dude shes awesome dude and he'll get the confidence from them to show more effiction... may sound stupid but i seen this alot so.... good luck

What is the question!!!! Bottom line from what you wrote I would guess he went running his mouth about you like a dog with his friends when you broke up and they know all your business at least from his point of view and now he is to embarrassed to tell them you guys are back together because they are going to say didn't you say she was this or that and did this or that. I don't think you can blame any of this on his friends they are just being there for their friend.

He needs to man up I wouldn't stay with someone who hides me.

Problem I see is that if he won't respect you and your relationship, then it is not a relationship.

You might love him, but it seems he's with you more for the efficiency of the deal. Judgemental friends mean nothing. Any man that is happy with his life and situation can be and will be completely 100% transparent with their friends.

Something to hide is never a good deal. I also not that you say you love him, he breaks up with you because of him, and he wants to keep it out of sight. Everything about him, and nothing about you. Think about it, and how you are promoting this by not sticking yourself in there.

If you ask me, he might just want to see where this is heading. I know for a fact, I don't like to tell people that I'm dating someone only to break up about a day later. He might want to see if you guys make it through a month before actually telling people you're officially together.

Buona fortuna!