My man had other exclusive relationships this whole time! Dump or forgive it?

You know the answer honey. You cant let your emotions get the best of you. You have to respect yourself, value yourself. Obviously his piece of *&^%$ doesnt value you or any woman for that matter. Ist that the type of person you want in your life? Someone who doesnt value, respect, or love you Someone who lies? Can youlive with that, knowing that he cannot be trusted, knowing that perhaps everyting you nowis a lie? How do you know if he really loves you? If someone loves you, would they do what they did to you Think about that.. If I were you I would seriously take my time, cry it out do what you need to do, and move on without him in your life. Life is too short. Dont waste it with a scum bag like that. I know its easy to say, but hard to do. But in the long run, your doing yourself a big favor. Good luck

I know how hard it is when someone you think you love betrays you. It really hurts. You may be thinking of all the good times and how you have to start over. You are not sure if you'll ever find someone who makes you feel the way he does (when things are good).

The thing is you should want someone who doesn't make you feel this bad. I am not saying dump him (even though I know you want someone to give you a definite answer) but only you will know what is best for you... maybe you will forgive him and later realize you can never trust him... I don't know.

All I can say is don't put yourself in a position that you are his place mat. Don't give him power over you. Do you think you can forgive and move on? Will you trust him? What if he says he is taking a trip?

Too much drama here. Much too much. Get off the drama train. This guy is a cheater and liar from what you have said. You dont deserve this. If he PREFERS you over the others just think of Ice Cream. Some one may PREFER chocolate marshmallow. BUT if the ice cream stand is out of it and that person is hungry for ice cream, he will eat most any others ....what he PREFERS doesnt matter at that point, he will take what is in front of him. Maybe you have knocked yourself out and worked harder than the others in trying to get on his good side and you will do anything for him and they may not. That is too much work to keep a guy that is a cheat. Relationships or love should make you feel GOOD not all torn up. Think about it. Good luck and God bless.

ok i actually finished reading all of this information whew... i believe that u should dump him because if his account is still active then he doesnt want to change he was with the girl from flordia for 2 years right and ur only at one so do u think its going to stop him cuz i dont think he will stop he's just being a player and not caring about u so go find someone who will put there full attachen on u and get rid of him good luck hun with ur situation hope the advise helps

"He is with me and MAYBE PREFERS ME OVER OTHERS AND LOVES ME..."

If you're even having the above thought the situation has clearly shocked you so much that you can not think clearly. I am very sorry for what has happened. I was cheated on too recently and it was devastating. But you have to get a grip. He's a cheater and does not love you. Your ego and self-esteem have both taken a blow. If he hadn't been caught he'd still be cheating. He'd cheat when married too.

In a few weeks you'll see things more clearly. For now stay away from him so you can heal w/o his influence.

Absolutely dump, are you crazy?

There are people out there who can't even get one girl, and this guy is greedy enough to go for TWO?

Dump now.

Unless you were on a break or something when that event happened, you MUST dump.

If he tries to beg for you, or tell you he's different now, or something, or that he prefers YOU more, ---all LIES, he just doesn't want to lose 2 women. And if I were in his place, I'd be begging for forgiveness and buying presents and all that, but I would not expect to be forgiven.

you're 32 and you don't know what to do? lol that's funny. someone at your age should already be firmly grounded in who they are as a person. apparently your personality development has been stunted. that's sad.

to answer your question .... don't marry him but if he's good in the sack and you're cool with him having other women on the side then go for it. he's a keeper. if you can't handle that then give him an ultimatum that it's either JUST you or he can hit the road and never come back. it's all dependent on what YOU want.

you need to talk to him in person set up a date with just you and him tell him all you know he cant deny it cuzz u have evidence so show him that too.....Honestly i know it will hurt but you need to leave him dont be naive and say he prefers u over all of them because honestly what makes you think that later on he wont find sme1 he prefers over you. He is obviously not a one woman's man but definetly let him know whatsup who knows he might have a reasonable explanation which i really doubt but you never know until you ask. If this is all true i think its clear to you what you need tto do but your just tryna find a reason on y u wld stay with him. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, boys are like buses if u miss one in 15 min another ones comin. TRUST me....he's not worth the heartache u deserve better y settle 4 less when u can have more.....CAN u please anser my question thanks I hope all goes well and God bless

Gotta hand it to him, he's a player. A sick, selfish, skilled, useless player.

Now, what exactly are you keeping him for? A FUTURE?

My dear, you obviously didn't even have a past with him!!

I don't understand your morals.

I can't believe we have to tell you to dump the cheater.

Grow up soon, you're making men look bad when most aren't this ridiculous.

How many parked cars have you chased today? Once a cheater always a cheater. Kick this dog to the curb. This guy will take whatever he can get, from whomever he can get it, no matter who he is with. Also remember when you have sex with your partner you are having sex with every one he has had sex with before you. With all these STD's going around do you want to take that chance? Aids kills. I wouldn't want this guy in the same room with me let alone let him into my bed. I mean if you have very low self esteem, are fat and ugly and have to settle for scumbag, I pity you. Believe me no one not even the hunchback of Notra Dame deserves that doushe.