Husband won't end relationship with "other woman"?

If my husband was refusing to completely end his relationship with the "other woman", "this woman" would be ending the relationship with him..........in fact, "this woman" wouldn't have given him the opportunity to reconcile!........he'd have been gone!

Sit your husband down one on one and inform him of the following:

Honey I have come to the realization that you do not want to really make this marriage work. If you did you would end all contact with this other woman. You are obviously holding on for a reason that is beyond be and more important than our marriage. Maybe she provides something for you that you feel like I cannot. Therefore as much as it pains me I feel like you deserve to be happy and she makes you happier than I do. That is the only explaination I can think of for a man continuing a relationship with someone who he has had an affair with. Please accept my apology for not being there for you enough emotionally and maybe even physically. I was under the impression that we could work this out but there is no way I can get past you still being emotionally attached to her to the point you will not end the relationship completely. I consider if it were me and the roles were reversed would you be happy with me holding on to a lover that I cheated on you with. I would have to say no. But you can now do what is best for you my dear and once again I am sorry we could not work this out like I prayed and thought we could. Please allow me time to seek a new place to live six months should do then you and she can be happy.

The fact that is he not willing to cut off all communication with her tells you he is really not serious about your marriage.

He knows that this makes you feel insecure. You also need to learn to trust him again. You may benefit from going to a marriage counselor and getting all these feelings out on the table and hopefully he will be able to work thru all of this and you would too.

Allison, my heart aches for you.

You need to get tough with your husband and let him know in no uncertain terms where his continued contact with this co-worker will lead. Tell him how you feel about all of this, describing it as accurately as you can. Get counseling if necessary.

At some point, you will have to decide if you are better off with him, or without him.

Broken trust is very difficult to rebuild, causing you distress by maintaining contact with someone you have asked him to stop connecting with is certainly NOT the way to do it.

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I wouldn't trust him and as far as them being in the same office the urge is still there and there is nothing you can do. As I read this you said you have pleaded with him to end all contact and he refuses well girl what do you think. These types of things can go on for years and the wife doesn't find out until later. To the men its no big deal. But to us it is.

He needs to cut off all contact with her to show you that he wont do it again. You are a great woman to try and work through it in the first place. You have done your part, now he needs to do his.

Yeah, I was able to work it out. And you want to know how? I ended the relationship with the bloke! If he really did love me and cared for me like he claimed to, then he would of ended all contact with the trick, but he didn't. So I was the one who ended it and moved on. Yeah, it was hard in the beginning but then you realize that you are better off with out that loser and that you deserve better. Now I'm with a wonderful man who I truly love, trust, and loves me back.

You can try marriage counseling but they will also recommend for him to cut off contact with her, which doesn't seem like he wants to do. Give him an ultimatum(either you or her) and if he still wants to keep contact with her, then kick him to the curb and move on.

I completely understand. I'm going through a similar situation. Only difference is the "other woman" is a "friend" of my husband. As some of the previous comments have said give him a ultimatum. Its her or you. IF he really honors the vows you took, he'll choose you. You can only be patient for so long. Pray about it.

I had a similar situation with an ex.... I forbid my ex from having contact with her. We went to counseling and the counselor backed me up - completely. He promised in front of the counselor --- to cut contact. I went to get him from work early one day --- walked up behind him, and sure enough saw him texting her!

I confronted him --- he said "I told you whatever you wanted to hear because I felt like you were cutting my balls off and I would have looked like a seirous asshole if I just stopped talking to her totally to everyone."

That was IT for me. Huge fight. The end.

I think you shouldn't have to play warden with your husband.... He shouldn't *want* to talk to her. Unless it is work related and it HAS to happen, he needs to cut it out and respect your feelings..... The way you feel is totally justified. The only way to establish trust is to get rid of this woman. He should understand that. If he understands the depth of hurt and severity you have due to it being an emotional affiar - you need to draw some boundaries.

I dont' know him , but my hunch is that he likes the ego boost and doesn't want to admit it. There is no reason for him to talk to her - none.

good luck.

If he refuses to cut all ties and communication with that tramp, then your marriage is over. He wants his cake and eat it too. Not cool! You will never be able to trust him and with good reason. He should never speak to her again if he loves you and truly wants to fix things with you and save your marriage and earn your trust. Clearly he doesn't. I am so sorry.