What could my mother and family do to keep ourselves safe from this person ?

First explain the situation to her supervisors at work before she loses her job, get a protective restraining order against her for endangerment, and once obtained notify the local authorities who can then do something. One warning since she is "family" doing anything willupset the family peace status quo so be prepared for any backlash but at least youll be safe

I agree that your mother's first step, in order to protect her job, should be to speak to her supervisor at work and lodge a complaint against the cousin. Get her actions on the record. Have her tell her manager that her cousin is creating a threatening and harassing work environment. Your manager does NOT want to be charged with any sort of discrimination, harassment, etc suit... so lodge she should lodge her complaint, make sure the manager is on her side, and get the company to intervene and stop your cousin's unreasonable behavior. They have the legal obligation to provide your mother with a non-threatening work environment - she should not be subjected to harassment at work. Hopefully a warning from her supervisor or a manager will scare the crazy cousin into stopping this nonsense altogether.

If that doesn't work, many people have suggested calling the cops. I know how difficult this can be to do to a family member. If you can't get help from your employer and don't want to call the cops, there are ways to get help that do not involve the police or criminal system.

Most courts have a family affairs or domestic violence unit. This is a civil (as in, no one will get arrested) function of the court. If you go to your local court's clerk's office, you can usually request a protective/restraining order by yourself without the help of an attorney. You fill out a couple forms with your identifying information and a very brief description of your problem. Bring any written or recorded evidence that you have of the cousin's threats. It will be important for your mother to be there since she will be the one requesting the protective order. You will usually have to go and briefly speak to the judge. She will ask you questions and you should answer honestly. You will find out immediately if the judge grants your protective/restraining order or not (if your situation is compelling, they usually will!). The rules vary depending on where you live, but a temporary restraining order will generally last 10 days. Then you can go back to court to get a permanent restraining order if you need it. It forbids your cousin from coming within a certain distance of your mother and any specified families members. Check out your state district court's local rules online or if they don't have a website, call your local court clerk. Even better, if you can afford it, call a local lawyer. He/she will be familiar will all your local and state laws, and many times initial consultations are free or low cost.

I know this seems like a lot of work, but if you're genuinely concerned that your cousin might do something, this is how you protect yourself. If the cousin is just acting out, this will scare the pants off her, and she will stop threatening your mother and disturbing your lives. If she really is this crazy, well, then you definitely need the restraining order.

Go to the police first and file a report. Make note of the dates and times these threats were made and what was said. Terroristic threats are not taken lightly by the law, proving the threats she made is the burden of the accuser. If the woman was dumb enough to tell a boss or supervisor that she hated you and whatever, you already have a witness. Then go to surrogate court and file a restraining order. then if the person comes anywhere near your house she will be arrested. Go to your company HR person and file harassment charges against this woman also. She is making threats in the work place and she can be terminated for doing it. You need to get this person off your back, she sounds like she is psychotic. She is putting your mother and everyone around her in danger. Do something ASAP, people that think the other person is just talk and don't do anything, sometimes wind up dead. We don't really know how obsessed this person is, she could snap at any moment and act on her threats.

I would first get documentation and/or witness statements as to what has been said and done. I would notify the employer so that they have the chance to ensure a "safe work place" for your mother and her co-workers. Ensure that your mom and family members are with others when out and about so that you have witnesses.

A person who is this unstable is not only a danger to your family but to others she is exposed to.

Obtain a restraining order (may not help much) so that your concerns are documented. Become aware of events and people around you and ensure you have security on what ever computers you have.

Most of the time people like these are just talk with little knowledge but one must not take the chance of letting your guard down.

The most important thing is to document all of her activity pertaining to your family. If she is shown to be a danger to your family and to others she may need to be placed under supervised care.

Your mom should report her to HR and let them know the situation. She can also file a harassment suit against her at work. If there have been death threats to your mom and your family, the police should be involved. A restraining order should be issued. What a psycho! You are dealing with a VERY unstable, dangerous person. You should also start recording any interactions you or your mom have with her...especially if you can get her on tape threatening to hurt you, your mom, your sister, etc... Involve the police. If your sister is a minor, involve Child Protective Services...they may have more clout in protecting her as a child.

Whoa nutcase cousin much? Well look you need to inform the authorities (if you haven't already), maybe tell her husband what she is doing, get a restraining order against her, call a mental hospital, keep your family in safe distance and in sight, take her to court, but before you do all of that, calm your mother down first okay?

I may be 13 but I'm sure as heck I'm capable of answering such a question.

I really hope you get that problem fixed as soon as possible, nothing is as important as your family's safety and mental health, now I'm proud of you for trying to solve this problem, now go solve this problem I tell you!

P.S. just in case she actually tries to harm your family, I suggest you buy a gun and get a gun license, and well when she harms you, shoot her in the leg and phone the police okay?

And I know my opinion doesn't mean much but please trust me on this.

sweetie, i don't know who you are and what really is going on and its too complicated. GET A LAWYER:] really if you feel threatened. then that person will go to jail:]

all done.

LOL i dont know. but ur cousin in law IS a nutcase and is creeping me out! HAHHHAHAHAHH lol

and pray!

LOL

I think you should make a police report and take it to court.

Call the cops.