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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureReligion & Spirituality · 1 decade ago

In Islamic religion, a man can have numerous wives. Can the wife can numerous relationships also?

I find it hard to grasp the idea of a muslim men having number of wives which live in harmony with one another. Someone please explain the reasoning behind it and how the wives can leave peacefully knowing the husband is spending nights with other women. Thank you all.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    i can see ur question is serious and ur asking it just to know..so first of all relationship or relationships are not allowed in islam either for men or women, single or married.

    yes a man can married up to 4 wives but only few men who are married to more than one these days.

    There are many reason why a man is allowed to marry more than one woman (maybe christians will think its weird but i can tell these ppl ur not reading the bible since almost all the prophets mentioned in the bible married more than a wife - so am just thinking why its not allowed in christianity?) am putting an article about the reasons of Polygamy in islam with the references, am sorry its a long article but i hope it will be useful for you

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    All mandates of the religion of Islam are from God, the Wise, and thus one deduces that all things which are permitted are due to the fact that their benefit to the self and society outweighs their harms. When one analyzes the reasons and results of the allowance of polygamy, it will be found that indeed the rulings of the religion of Islam are truly those which suits all times and places, as their source is God Almighty, the Wise and the Knowledgeable.

    As the Quran indicates (4:3), the issue of polygamy in Islam is understood in the light of community obligations towards orphans and widows. Islam, as a universal religion that is suitable for all times and places, can not ignore these compelling obligations.

    Islamic polygamy addresses the social problems of prostitution and extramarital affairs common in the West. Instead of cheating - infidelity is one of the top reasons for divorce in the West - Islam allows a man to marry more than one wife, with full recognition of the rights of both of them. The basic principle in Islam is that men are held responsible for their behavior towards women just as women are responsible for their behavior towards men.

    The number of women in the world exceeds that of men. The surplus is a result of men dying in wars, violent crimes, and women outliving men.[1] The upsurge in homosexuality further increases the problem. Bertrand Russell wrote, “And in all countries where there is an excess of women, it is an obvious injustice that those women who, by arithmetical necessity, must remain unmarried should be wholly debarred from sexual experience.”[2] Polygamy, then, is the only responsible solution for this predicament.

    Country[3] Male Population Female Population

    Russia 46.1% 53.9%

    UK 48.6% 51.5%

    USA 48.8% 51.2%

    Brazil 49.7% 50.27%

    Let us take the US as an example. Why are extramarital affairs so widespread? “What makes this state of affairs possible, of course, is a supply of willing women. Most are single, both because of the growing numbers of unmarried women (there are 34 million in the United States today) and because single women generally have more free time and energy than do their married counterparts. Consider these statistics: One out of every five women today has no potential mate because there are simply not enough single men to go around. A 25-year-old single woman faces a serious undersupply of available men to start with, and the situation gets worse the older a woman gets. Divorced men are much more likely than divorced women to remarry (and they tend to marry younger women), so that there are more than twice as many single women as there are single men in their 40s. Indeed, a woman who divorces at 35 today is likely to remain single for the rest of her life. Caught in a demographic bind while seeking greater autonomy, more and more single women are opting for involvement with married men.”[4]

    In addition, surplus of women who are not financially maintained by a husband is a cause of increased prostitution in the society. For example, Germany has 0.96 males/female. Under Germany’s welfare reforms, any woman under 55 who has been out of work for more than a year can be forced to take an available job – including being a prostitute in the sex industry – or lose her unemployment benefit![5] A 1994 study found that 16% of 18-59 year old men in a US survey group had paid for sex (Gagnon, Laumann, and Kolata 1994).

    Furthermore, the problem of the unbalanced sex ratios can worsen during times of war. The WWII war-bride phenomenon is a case in point. After the WWII there were 7,300,000 more women than men in Germany alone (3.3 million of them were widows). There were 100 men aged 20 to 30 for every 167 women in that age group. Many of these women needed a man not only as a companion but also as a provider for the household in a time of unprecedented misery and ha

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    [33:50] O prophet, we made lawful for you your wives to whom you have paid their due dowry, or what you already have, as granted to you by GOD. Also lawful for you in marriage are the daughters of your father's brothers, the daughters of your father's sisters, the daughters of your mother's brothers, the daughters of your mother's sisters, who have emigrated with you. Also, if a believing woman gave herself to the prophet - by forfeiting the dowry - the prophet may marry her without a dowry, if he so wishes. However, her forfeiting of the dowry applies only to the prophet, and not to the other believers. We have already decreed their rights in regard to their spouses or what they already have. This is to spare you any embarrassment. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful. 33:52] Beyond the categories described to you, you are enjoined from marrying any other women, nor can you substitute a new wife (from the prohibited categories), no matter how much you admire their beauty. You must be content with those already made lawful to you. GOD is watchful over all things Prophet Muhammad had different laws revealed to him concerning marriage. He had a great political responsibility, like many of his wives were women from other tribes and marrying them brought about peace treaties between different tribes.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The Quran states that a Muslim may have up to 4 wives. If he can care for all of them equally.

  • 1 decade ago

    Have a look at the analysis based on Religion and Fact of life Regarding Polygamy here:

    http://miraclesofislam-hazirah.blogspot.com/2009/0...

    May Allah guide all of us through the right path.

    http://www.islamawareness.net/

    http://www.ilovezakirnaik.com/

    http://miraclesofthequran.com/index.php

    http://www.online-watch-tv.com/Peace-TV.php

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  • 1 decade ago

    From Quran :

    'Marry woman of your choice in twos' threes' or fours' but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one' [Al-Qur'an 4:3]

    'It is very difficult to be just and fair between women'. [Al-Qur'an (4:129)]

    From the above two verses it is clear that Islam allows only one wife(which is what majority of muslim men have).

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No. Women in Islam cannot have that many husbands just one. She is to be loyal to her husband and he to her, them. Additonally qur'an surah 4:34 permits a man to beat his disobedient wife.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Only if he can treat equally

    which is impossible so discouraged upon.

    And why do u want numerous relationships,

    i mean surely 1 dick should be enough eh?>

  • Tybee
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    HA HA HA HA HA What do YOU honestly think? Have you read a newspaper or magazine in the last decade?

  • 1 decade ago

    the man can, as long as he treats all the women equally. the woman can't, only if she was divorced(*i think).

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No. Women are inferior in that religion

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