What would you think of a person who goes running back to a person who left them?

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This is pertaining to my mother who has failed in parenting me. If anything, people at school have done a better job at raising me and my father shows love. Anyway, my mom wants to go back with my step dad who sexually abused my younger sister and I eventually drove him out of the house with all the drama I was creating because I was upset. So one day(and this happened twice mind you), he left the house while my mom was at work and everyone was out of the house and he left to a differerent country without saying goodbye to his son or anything. So I was like "Well, there's another nasty thing he did". At first she was furious and I thought it was finally over and I was free too, we all were. But then he starts calling her saying how he was buying a house in that new country for them and he wanted her to move down there with him. She said yes, she really did. And I yelled and argued and fought and she shouted me down and she called me an "evil piece of shyt" and I was the reason why my stepdad fled. Whatever. He also lies alot, especially about getting jobs and buying new things. So when I leave New York in like a year,(since I'm getting ready), I'm gonna ket her stew in her own juices and good riddance. What do you think about this whole thing?

Update:

What would be the point of making all of this up? It's not made up, it's just frustrating me. WHAT is so damn amazing about this story that it seems false? -.-

Update 2:

New york diva must not believe in anything written on yahoo since this is a typical problem with families and questions like these are usualyl asked on yahoo answers. I think yahoo is for advice and to know others opinions. If its not, then why are you on here? I should go on all of your questions and say that "If this is true, you wouldnt be sitting here writing this" so you can feel like a tard.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you guys are going to need some family counselling or 'individual therapy/counselling' for advice and just to help you deal with things and put them in perspective so you can take care of your life well. Its good you have a dad who seems decent but im sure he isn't perfect! If there was any sexual abuse your sister should report that to the police; it is the best way to keep her guarded regardless of what ever else may happen. Make sure your dad does know about that is well.

Your mum sounds desperate for her happiness, however i would recommend counselling and therapy for her is well. She sounds like a stressed person. 

Im sorry your mum is upsetting you; its true all parents aren't perfect people.

I do hope things go well for you and all. 

Right now at this stage in your life i believe it would be best if you don't move to another country. Stay here if you can, will your dad help you? And you can stay focused on things you need to be doing and are/will be interested in.

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Do you have any supportive grand parents who would be willing to intervene and try and help your family out? 

Do your grand parents live in new york, and can you rely on them for anything?

Zerokid · Answer

Well This Is Kind Of Like My Dad Right Here How You Said It.
My Mom Left My Dad Cuz Of that.
She Should Leave And Find A better Person..

Tbrat · Answer

Piece of Shyte the stepdad is and your mom is dumb for sticking around and having him call her and wanting to move with this guy to ANOTHER country- your mom seems like she is trying to hold onto something that will never work and she wil regret it in the long run- you can only do so much-- seems like your better off without your mom in the picture....Im sorry you have to go through this jerry springer drama

.LARAIN. · Answer

I dont know how old you are, or if your moving to NY by yourself but i think you need to get yourself and your sister away from that if you havent done that already, your mom isnt a good mom right now, let her figure things out on her own. Dont sit around with her and wait for something worse to happen to you or your sister..

This is terrible, im sorry that your having to deal with that shi* dude!

Molly · Answer

That sucks. I never understood how a person could become so attached to someone so..evil. It happens all the time. Might want to cut her some slack..she's the only mother you're ever going to have. She may not be the best, but she's still your mom.

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Hev · Answer

I can offer you one piece of advice and that is you are truely not alonw in this situation, many other people have experienced a situation like this... best this is to do what you think is best... :)

Van Bo · Answer

Step Dad is a dead beat, not worth 2 cents, loser, liar, cheat and trouble.

Julia · Answer

i think that if that guy sexually abused your younger sister, your mom should have burned his things, thrown him out and never look back. (or report him if she didnt)

that sucks.

Anonymous · Answer

she is a failure and a poor excuse for a mother.  she so afraid of being alone that she  sacraifices her own kid's safety.  how pitiful!

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What would you think of a person who goes running back to a person who left them?

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