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Need opinion: Girlfriend said she needs a break.?
We've been together for 3 1/2 years. We met in college and we did the distance thing a lot but she recently moved down in my neck of the woods for an internship. She got an apartment and wanted me to live with her but I said I was staying living with my parents to save money for our future and she understood. We've talked about marriage for a while now. I just graduated and am looking for a job in my field and she is about to graduate grad school but doesn't have a job lined up yet; so we're both on unstable grounds. She said she loves me and cares about me but she needs a break after we had an argument over the weekend. This fight occurred drunk and has occurred before, but we usually just work it out. She's not seeing anyone else so she doesn't want to fool around with someone new. So what do you think she's saying?? She said she'll let me know where shes at in a week and I've told her that she is the most important thing in my life but I'll respect her wishes and let her have her space.
About the arguments while I'm drunk, she tells me I need to open up more, so I did about myself being stressed out/depressed sometimes. I get really emotional and leads to violence sometimes. Not beating her or anything like that, but punching holes in a wall for example. I began to open up to her sober, but we'll see. One of these episodes occurred in front of her sister and brothers and it is extremely important that her family loves me as much as she does but I don't think that helped. The episodes don't occur often either. She is also saying that I act like I do when I was with my fraternity (i.e. being a jerk and goofing around, etc.) and that I'm a different person than I was but she still loves me and has feelings for me...that's about it.
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Try to find a solution to whatever the fight was about. Even if you think she's wrong about something now is the time to give in. Send her a letter apologizing and a bouquet of her favorite flowers but in the letter towards the end add that you are confused. don't be afraid to show her your real feelings. Also add that you will remain giving her space until she is ready to talk about what she has been thinking about. I hope all goes well.
- 5 years ago
Little Dude, It sounds like you're not the priority anymore. Her school work is. Its extremely important to her and if you get in the way she will resent you. The best thing you can do is encourage her to do her homework. Make it easier for her. Get her to the library and pick her up afterwards. Get her coffee when she studies, then leave. You'll get a few mins of time with her. If she doesnt want you around at all then do that but ask about her later on if she needs anything. IF shes ok. Be a concerned BF. You will not see her much unless you study together. Even then, you'll have to shutup and let her study. If she's not doing good in school, shes not going to be happy. IF she's not happy, she's not going to be happy with you. If you can't do this, then just break it off and move on. You'll find someone who gives you all the attention you need. She'll find someone who is considerate towards her. Give her what she needs. Study time! Another thing, be positive and happy. Dont be a downer. Keep it fresh and happy.
- 1 decade ago
I think giving her space is a good thing. Leave her alone and may be when you see her again, bring her a little happy surprise and let her know that you're thinking about her. Women need reassurance, especially when life is a bit unstable/stressful at the moment. As long as you make her smile again, anything is possible.
Good luck!
- 1 decade ago
She just wants to get away for a bit. Girls need there space, so let her have it, but make sure she knows you still want to be with her. Send her flowers and say that you are sorry about the fight. Also give her alone time. Good luck!
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- 1 decade ago
A recurring argument while inebriated? Sounds like the root of the problem right there.
- 1 decade ago
I'm not saying that she will break up wit you but just be prepared to let her go, she's having doubts about the relationship and those kind of thoughts are almost impossible to get rid of. - hope you work it out
Source(s): knowledge - Anonymous1 decade ago
break?
you mean like poop?
do me a favor and poop on my front porch!
