got invited to a party for the wrong reason?

My advice: If you want to start disassociating yourself from Bozo the unpopular guy, fabricate a good reason why "this time" you'll be unable to give him a ride to the party.

I've had some experience with going to an event for the "wrong reasons". Just last week we were asked to attend a luncheon to hear a presentation for a local charity, and of course make a donation. The person who invited us did not come to greet us when we arrived, and we had to be seated with people we didn't know at all because there was some mix-up about the table arrangements. All in all, we were pretty uncomfortable there. I think your instincts are correct about not attending a party unless you'd be welcome for your own sake.

It might be nice of you to help Bozo find another way to get to the party (and other places), besides relying on you to be his chauffeur.

For me it would depend on how I got my invitation. If it came from the guy that needs a ride, I definitely would not go. If it came from the person hosting the party and it felt sincere then I would go. I think I would tell the "guy" that you don't mind giving him a ride to the party but you don't know how long you will be staying, so he needs to make arrangements and get his own ride home. I would start trying to make some distance between myself and him regarding me being the chauffeur. I've been in that situation once myself and did not like it. I felt like I was being taken advantage of and I didn't feel freedom to come and go as I pleased because of the transportation issues.

The popular guys ASSIGNED you to give him a ride?

Why are they in charge of you?

Are they paying you?

Do you let just anyone "assign" you to do things you'd rather not do, or is it just the popular guys who get to boss you around without paying you a wage for the privilege?

Find some testicular fortitude.

Be your own man, and not everyone's pasty. I'd drop all those people from my list of who to do favors for, and move forward more independantly.

Drivers and chauffers GET PAID.

Either don't do it at all (and please tell them they aren't in charge of you!), or don't do it for free.

If he wants a ride, he can pay you for the work. Drop him off, then tell him when you'll pick him up (with a rate for each minute he makes you wait), or make it a one-way thing.

If these guys want to "assign" you to do this, they can pay you for the work. Again, you set the parameters of what you're willing to do for the money.

Don't do this for free, do it cash only and up front only, and don't go to the party. Drop him off, get your money and go clubbing or something.

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ok this is how i see it and i was in a similiar situation last yr.

unless the guys are jerks and invite you for the reason of trashing you and ur mate. They're inviting you because they want more people to go to the party. its not really a party if theres 10 people is there? and if they didnt really want you unpopular friend to go they would of just bashed the crap out of him or just rejected him or something. there more reasons to invite more people then to reject them.

btw your not protecting or loosing your dignity if no one even notices you, i bet the guys are just thinking "aww yeah, we invited that guys best mate so he could get a ride to the party". The end nothing else to it. no one is goin to be like "HAHA the looser actualy showed up"

and for god sakes your 26 popularity doesnt exist anymore your adults already...

try getting an independant mindset; if you keep chasing the ideal of being popular you'll never develope as a person, and you just be another totally uninteresting 38 year old single guy in a dirty appartment

I wouldnt go! your not a private taxi. and I doubt you'll have fun. If you want to break free from the label put on you, dont go!

Are you in some kind of fraternity? NO! Do not be his sidekick. You start earning your respect!