What should I do about these two guys?

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I am 19 and in college and I am having a problem with my current boyfriend and my ex boyfriend. My current boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months and have been friends since high school and we decided to try dating. He is 18 and newly out of high school and in college and have not had many long relationships. He constantly calls me names like Old lady, a blond, among many others. He is the guy that I lost my virginity to a little while ago, and he complains that I do not do anything during sex, but in fact I do not know what to do during it since I have not done it that much. We just recently had a pg scare, but it turned out that I wasn't but before I found out, I told him that if I was that I blamed myself because I ask him all the time if we can have sex. When I told him I wasn't, he used what I said about blaming myself against me, he constantly does this. After sex, he leaves to go home, right after we get done, which I find wrong and hurtful.

Then there is my ex boyfriend. We dated for 1 yr and 4 months when we decided to break up because I came up here to college and he was going to move to Alaska to be in the coast guard. We had a falling out and did not speak to each other. Then just last year he called me one day up here to college and wanted to be friends. We have been friends since then, but now since he has gotten hit by a car because he works for a gas company and works along side roads and one day got hit. He wants to get back together with me because he claims to still love me and care for me. He is 20, but his work makes him travel all over the U.S. He wants me to break up with my boyfriend to be with him. I love them both so much, but my head is telling me to stay with my current boyfriend, but my heart is telling me to be with my ex boyfriend. What do you think I should do? Do you think my current boyfriend is too immature for me and that I should break up with him if he is constantly calling me names and being too rough when he does things, like tickling me? or Do you think that my ex boyfriend just wants me back because I am not a virgin anymore and just wants sex from me? If you don't think that about my ex, do you think I should go back out with him? Please help me!!!

cara · Accepted Answer

umm i have no idea. i'm more concerned that you think tickling is rough? me and my bf wrestle and choke each other out. but your current bf sounds like a waste of time. how about you try a different guy...what you need is a man

Patrick D · Answer

it sounds like ur current bf doesnt treat u that great...hes constantly putting u down even if its joking and it leaves to go home right after u guys have sex..what kinda bf is that? and u shouldnt blame urself for the pg..it takes a man and woman to make a baby..so hes just as much as fault..it doesnt sound like this guy treats u that great and it might just be due to immaturity...sounds like hes just using u for sex..
it sounds like u and ur ex didnt have a bad break up..it was only b/c u were going to college and he was going to coast guard..so it didnt really end on bad terms from what im reading..if ur ex treated u good when u guys were together and u guys didnt have any big fights or anything, id say maybe give the ex another chance..ur current bf is just treating u like s***..u need to get rid of that guy

The Masked Truelovers · Answer

As far as your current boyfriend, he doesn't respect you.  You deserve better.  Both men and women in a relationship should uplift each other and encourage, NEVER belittle and hurt each other.  There is nothing wrong with tickling in good fun, but the way he treats you overall does not show love.  I'm not sure why you think you are in love with him, but it doesn't seem like he knows how to show love and you are going to get left hurt and broken in the future.

You were with your last boyfriend for awhile.  He may legitimately miss you.  It's hard for an outside observer to know his motives.  Whether or not you get together with the ex, you should really think about doing better for yourself than your current boyfriend.

? · Answer

wow...idk... umm. its possible that he might want u back for just the sex.. but hed have to find out from somone did u tell him?? well i personaly am still very much in love with my baby daddy. of almost 2 i have a lill girl and one on the way. i just left him about 2 1/2 months ago and stil love him alot but i kno its the best to do so cuz he didnt appriciate me the way i did him. personaly id drop both... but u can also say follow ur heart. idk. its hard to say. i kno the one ur with now is not ready for a seriouse relationship tho. and u didnt say how the other treated or treats u... id go with who ever treats u with respect and if thats neither drop them both.

Vertigo Fate · Answer

I personally think neither are right for you.
The guy you're with doesn't sound all that great, but I assure if you get back together with your ex you will experience the same problems you had in your previous relationship with him.
Also, I don't think the "traveling around the U.S. part" sounds to appealing either.

Elizabeth · Answer

you need to get rid of boyfriend.He is disrespectful to you.Anytime anyone puts you down they are insecure or guilty of something.If he leaves you just after sex then hon you have a problem.He sounds like a selfish person  who only wants his immediate gratification.You need to cool off with the guys and concentrate on your school work.Your education is the most important thing in your life right now other than family.If either loves you,they can wait,if not then they weren't worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

HIT BY A CAR? thats hardcore!

Tanzen · Answer

I think you should ditch both guys and find a girl.

Anonymous · Answer

follow ur head first..if it doesnt work..go with the heart

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