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Julia S asked in Food & DrinkVegetarian & Vegan · 1 decade ago

How do you answer questions from children, vegetarians?

So, this is a question for vegetarians (and non-vegetarians, I suppose).

A co-worker, Anne, once told me a story about her cousin's child. She was eating lunch with her cousin and her cousin's daughter when the girl noticed that Anne wasn't eating the ham. The girl asked why, and Anne explained that she didn't eat animals. The girl asked what she meant, and Anne explained that ham was from a pig. The girl apparently was horrified and pushed it away, when her mom assured her that "no, no it isn't," then pointedly asked Anne, "IS it?"

What would you do in this situation? One issue is obviously respecting a person's right to raise their own children. However, on the other hand, there is simple honesty. So what do you think? Is it okay to tell kids that meat is animals if they ask why you don't eat it?

What if there's a child who is trying to be "vegetarian" because they don't want to eat animals, but they continue to eat fish and/or poultry and/or hamburger (or something else that is unidentifiable as meat). If you say no to whatever they're eating on the grounds that you are a vegetarian and they say, "Me, too," what would be your response? Should you say nothing and affirm their belief that fish/hamburger isn't from an animal, or explain that you don't eat any animals (and again, risk upsetting them)?

This should go without saying, but I obviously do not think it is appropriate to tell young children the gory details about factory farms and slaughterhouses, etc., or to tell a kid that they're a murderer or whatever. I am simply asking whether you think it is better to be honest with a child when asked a direct question (and risk upsetting them), or directly lie to them to keep the peace.

Update:

*sigh* Okay, a couple of you seem to need to hear this. Anne isn't me, so kindly don't act as though she is. Nobody on here knows me. I'm totally anonymous. I have no reason whatsoever to dissemble.

I was remembering that situation because I do have a pescetarian friend whose daughter is trying to be vegetarian and I'm not sure how to respond if it comes up at mealtime. She knows that I'm a vegetarian, and I don't know what to say if she asks why I'm not eating fish, even though "it's vegetarian/not an animal."

I highly value honesty and I think it would be morally wrong to lie and say that fish is a plant (or whatever fish is if it isn't an animal). I also want to respect this girl's decision to eat seafood if she so desires, even though I think the distinction between fish and chickens/cows is rather arbitrary.

Update 2:

I also like the idea of turning the question back to her Mom. I've done that with other types of questions that kids ask (if they ask me about religion/spirituality, for example). I do feel somewhat badly about allowing her to go on with false information (especially information that could cause her problems in science/biology), but it might not be a bad idea.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    She did not do anything wrong and she was not pushing her beliefs onto the child.

    She just told the child the truth. Ham is from a pig. It is not right to lie to a child like the mother did and state that ham is not from an animal. She is not stating reasons to not eat it, she is just stating the truth that ham comes from a pig.

    If a child thinks that they are a vegetarian and eat animals then yes I would explain to them that the food that they are eating is an animal. It is not a bad thing for someone to know what they are eating is an animal, plant, fungi etc. I would also tell a child that a mushroom is a fungi if they ask, but I would not state that if they do not ask.

    I personnal feel it is better to be honest with the child. I agree, depending on the how young the child is I would not state details about slaughterhouses, etc. Now if the child is like 16 years old then I probably would, but for someone in grade school I would not state things like that in front of them. They do not need nightmares or anything like that.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think if a kiddo asked me, I would just say I don't eat meat. Most kids don't know what a vegetarian/vegan is anyway, so it's no big deal.

    In your case, with the pesca kiddo, if she asks why you aren't eating the fish, just say "I don't eat fish either. I'm sure picky, aren't I?!" and then laugh. She'll learn about fish later, so there's no reason to "educate" her at this point.

    I'm all for honesty- and I wouldn't have agreed with Anne's "IS it?!" I respect her saying you'll eat what I feed you until you're older (but am SO grateful my parents didn't feel that way!). However, if her kids asked, I would say I don't eat meat. I like veggies. And keep it simple.

    Kids have a hard time processing that what they eat are animals. For example, even though they are called the same thing, a lot of kids don't understand that the chicken in the barnyard and the chicken on their plate is the same thing.

  • 1 decade ago

    My friend explained to her kids, when asked why I don't eat meat (they asked her, not me) that I choose not to eat meat, and that when they were an adult they could choose not to eat meat as well. They said they didn't want to eat it because I wasn't and she said they didn't have a choice, they had to eat what was on their plate or have consequences.

    I saw a million things wrong with what she told them but...I kept my mouth shut.

    As hard as it is, you really need to stay out of other people's parenting. Even if it's something that you believe is a lie they are telling or even if it's something you super strongly believe.

    She is really into God and religion and I am not, and I would be really mad if she started telling my daughter about heaven and all that, not merely educating and saying some people believe in this, but saying it like it's a fact and this is the way it is.

    I love these kids to death and I would never ever lie to them...so when they ask me questions, I tell them to ask their mom about it. I just say, your mom is the best person to go to with these questions.

    And then I'm not angering or offending or upsetting anyone.

    However.

    I always tell everyone that if they have honest questions for me I will respond with my honest answer of what I believe and know to be true. Whenever I am asked a question I always list resources and I say, research the facts. Read into it what you want. Feel what is true and right in your heart and your head. Don't just take my word for it. But young kids are just not capable of doing that, and so they need to turn to their parents for answers.

    Parents have a hard enough time raising their children without other people interfering and telling them they are doing it wrong.

    So my advice for Anne would have been to not even answer the "IS it" question and redirected it back to the mom and continued with my meal. I don't believe in lying, but I don't believe in interfering with other peoples parenting either.

    So I always redirect it back to the parent. It's their choice what they want their kids to know, not mine.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    No, this is not a call for. people have an extremely complicated time digesting meat, some human beings extra so than others. It easily has to putrefy interior the intestine because it travels slowly interior the path of the digestive tract. human beings take all kinds of tummy pills and such whilst the entire problem is what's on their plate and rotting of their intestine. occasion: in case you do no longer drink beer are you going to be particular they attempt it so they do no longer sense omitted?? this is the comparable concept...this is not something a guy or woman desires and that they gained't be omitted.they are going to be extra healthy. Have examine some different comments right here that point out letting infants consume meat at a acquaintances abode,etc. that's an extremely undesirable concept!! a new child who has by no potential ate up meat does no longer have the potential to digest meat, that's a element that the physique does no longer understand what to do with and that's going to be vomited lower back up , make very unwell, could finally end up in ER even. I even have had my lunch "spiked" (blended some hamburger into my warm dish field)at artwork interior the worker frig; I had to bypass abode unwell/throwing up and the fool that did it had to conceal my shift. My lunch keeps to be in my vehicle now!I shop my lined coffee cup close additionally...spike the field with cow milk...comparable concept.... a guy or woman eats healthful; and something of inhabitants can no longer stand the concept that somebody could be healthful and stay longer than them. No sugar, no meals dyes, no GMO's, no meat....such an concept could however the scientific community out of artwork, what a shame.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I think lying to kids about what they eat is wrong. I know people in their teens who don't know that gelatin comes from animals! And I've know that since I was young (my mom told me). I have only bee na vegetarian since February 20 2009, but I have always wanted to become one because I love animals, it was just too hard because I was raised on a lie.

    I love animals and if it were my choice as a kid I would have never ate them, and chicken nuggets would have never been my favorite food as a kid. You never really question where they come from though, even though they have the word "CHICKEN" in it. So I think being honest to the kid is the right thing to do.

    When she grows up, and realizes that that hamburger shes eating is a cow, it'll disgust her. Parents who eat meat usually don't want to go through changing their childs diet so they aren't honest.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Ok I would have went on the Assumption that kids and everybody knew that animals are killed to provide meat for us. Come on are "city kids" and some kids from the country that Unknowngeable about the production of meat.

    I would state that I don't eat animals and the hamburger you;'re eating and the ones I've eaten before become vegeterian came from killing a cow or bull.

    The parents have to deal with it from that point and Raise Smart kids that know common knowledge information

    /jabril

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    it's honestly never come up before. I would probably say I was a vegetarian, and if they asked, I would say I don't eat meat, and only if the kid kept asking, would I explain where meat came from.

    They only little kid I really see much is my niece Annabel, who is a little over 2, and she's used to people not eating the same things she does, because she has a milk allergy, and she eats pork and beef, but her mom doesn't.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would be honest. I have a problem with people who keep their kids in the dark. Those kids are going to have problems later in life. They will struggle with harsh reality because their parents keep them deliberately sheltered and ignorant, and I think it's wrong, and if they have a problem with my honesty they can take their kids somewhere else. I'm not going to tell small children in graphic detail what happens in slaughterhouses, but even infants deserve to know that they are eating an animal.

  • 1 decade ago

    Honesty is the best policy. My 3 kids know where meat come from, my daughter did go though a no meat phase but it passed. We live out in the country, so my kids know that when daddy goes hunting he is going to shoot a dear and we will eat it. This has not "scared" them in any way, they will even ask when he's gonna bring a deer home cause they like it much better than store bought meat.

  • 1 decade ago

    if i had the guts i would say yes it certainly is from cow. i would probably half way back down and say, "i've been told that it is."

    i would NOT pretend it wasnt cow...for the childs sake, and also so shove it in that bit**y moms face.

    and to mrs g2 the facts that meat is animals is not an "idea" its a fact, and being honest about it isnt trying to push anything ion anyone

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