I've got a big family dilemma?

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I'm a 42 year-old English guy living in Ibiza, and this year work has been very hard to come by due to the economical crisis and I've run out of money.  I have to leave my lodgings this coming weekend.  I was going to help an acquaintance open and run a cafe-bar and we'd planned to flat share.  He was putting up the capital and I was going to pay him rent with my wages from the work I'd put into managing the business, it was ideal.  Today he tells me he's changed his mind and that he's moving to Barcelona.  So as from tomorrow I'm flat broke and homeless.
My family dilemma is: should I tell my family back home about my predicament?  They're not really in a financial position to be able to help me and I don't want them all worrying about me.  Sleeping rough in Ibiza in summer isn't such a big deal, the climate is great for it, but at this time of year the nights are cold and very humid and I know it's going to be horrible, I'm dreading it.
I'd hate to have to leave the island because I have a six year-old daughter here who lives with my ex-wife, and being off the island would mean not seeing her for ages and probably missing christmas with her as well, which would break my heart and hers as well.  This is causing me an enormous amount of anxiety and depression.
Should I phone home and tell my folks, or spare them the worry, what are your views?
Those tempted to be snide or cruel, please refrain.

Orla C · Accepted Answer

I think your family would rather know the whole story from you, rather than find out from someone else, like a vindictive ex-wife. 

I am sorry for your dilemma, I really am, but I think that if you could go back to the UK for a few months, and keep in touch with your daughter through Skype or MSN, then that would be better for you.  I wish I could offer you better advice ....

Penny L · Answer

If you were my son I'd want to know. I know you don't want to miss seeing your daughter but being homeless doesn't sound fun and not exactly the image you wanted for her to see in her father. You should come home to England sort your finances out then head back to Ibiza in the spring. You can get an easyjet flight whenever you have spare cash, but you will be no help to your daughter being penniless. Good luck.

angypangy · Answer

sometimes its good to be able to talk to your family about whats going on with you just as a means to relieve stress, even if they cant help you. i mean you've been around long enough to know life is up and down, and this probably wont be permanant. dont be a man about it and go through it alone, its too stressful and might compound things in your in mind. its always better for your mental health to reach out.

Anonymous · Answer

i think of your boyfriend and your mom and dad are being egocentric,to be user-friendly. this could be YOUR decision, no longer theirs. Your mom and dad should not be forcing you to declare. And your boyfriend shouldn't assist you to be attentive to that a year aside will ruin the dating, by fact if he fairly enjoyed you he could anticipate you to return if what you fairly needed grow to be to stay including your loved ones for a year. Do what makes you happy and makes the main experience for you. do no longer enable different people impact your decision by fact in the event that they love you they are going to be there for you no depend what.

Anonymous · Answer

stay with ur ex for a while lol

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