am i overreacting? opinions please.?

you're definitely not overreacting. he's still acting like the same single guy he was before you met him!

he clearly hasn't grasped the concept that he's in a relationship & needs to chill with all that.

let him know you're not going to deal with it forever & if he really loved and respected you he wouldn't do that!

You are right for your feelings and caring because it is out of concern and caring you have them. But here is something to think about before you tighten the screws on a long distance relationship.

He is currently up front and hopefully honest with you of what he is doing and doing it with. If you stop this, will he then not tell you about what he is doing and continue doing it behind your back. I would want the open knowledge then work slowly on bringing him back in line for building a good solid relationship for the two of you.

When you are together I would hope he is focused only on you. Now personally I don't think pinching anyone is right or holding hands but having female friends is OK as long as it remains that way.

That is not ok behavior. If you're questioning his loyalty there is a reason for it. A playful personality does not = pinching butts and things of that nature. If you think this guy is the one, or someone you can trust completely in the long run, you are fooling yourself. Cut ties before you're too deep into it.

Since it's only been a little while, you have to consider that when you say "cutting it all off" some guys think you mean really, really short, like a guy's hair cut. So if you went from looking like Rapunzel to looking like Anne Heche, that's when he'd probably be upset. He likes you the way you are, and doesn't want you to have hair like a dude. My BF (who's now 29) first met me when I had really long hair, but when I wanted to cut it short last year, he was okay with it as long as I still looked like a girl. But, I do think you are over reacting, because you asked him a joking way. Let it go.

No, you're not overreacting. You told him how you feel about certain actions he has. Telling you that it doesn't mean anything as far as he is concerned doesn't address that it means something as far as you are concerned. So until the situation is resolved whereas the two of you come to some sort of agreement of what is appropriate in your relationship, then maybe the two of restrain from being around the opposite sex in any fashion, even as friends. If the two of you can't come to some sort of agreement, then you don't belong together.

WHOA! No way! He is totally scamming you. Drop his @ss. If I found out my girlfriend was holding hands with some other guys I would kick her to the curb, done with, adios! What a jerk. And then now he is sexually harassing women as well by pinching their butt. This guy has Sexual Predator written all over him. It's too bad we can't castrate people anymore!

If you were acting the same way he is, would it be acceptable to him? Probably not. Give him a taste of his own medicine hun. Take pics with other guys holding hands, pinch some guys butt too. See if it doesn't mean anything to your b/f. I guarantee he won't like it one bit.

He is immature and he is not ready for a commitment. Pinching girls butts is not cool period!

ur not really overreacting, but it is SOO much better for him to tell you he did it, bcause then he's tellin you not to worry or hes trying to break up with you. srry thats my opinion!!!! i think he stills loves ya

i would feel the same way...its understandable..the pinching was too much...but you should tell him your not compfortable(sp) with it ...just talk it out