Anyone else having a hard time dealing with the death of a loved one?

Yes, always. My father will be gone four years next in December, and I have good days and bad days. Sometime I really really miss him and I can't even do the simplest tasks. In some ways it gets easier as time goes on, but in other ways it gets harder. Because the farther away you get from the death, the farther away you get from the person. It is very sad sometimes.

First, let me say I'm sorry if you have just lost a loved one. Second, let me say that I have just lost a loved one. My aunt died of a Tylenol overdose this past Friday. She was 45 years old. She hurt her back when her foot fell in a hole on the pavement near her job. She broke the fall and ended up pulling out her back. However, she continued going to work until August. She had debts of about $80,000 and felt that this was a bad time to lose a job. She had worked for the city of Miami for 19.5 years. Despite her mother's best efforts, she could not convince my aunt to stop taking Tylenol and to seek medical treatment from a doctor. If her mother told her to go to the doctor, she would say no. She also did not listen to her mother when she said that she should not take the Tylenol and would instead take the pills without anyone knowing. This continued for months without anyone really noticing anything. She went to bed every night at 7 p.m., never went out on weekends to party, lived at home with her parents, and never married. She was also a health nut and believed in alternative medicine. This was an unexpected time to lose her and it wasn't planned. It's not like she had cancer or something and we would have had time to prepare for her death. She always said she would live until she was 102. We all believed her because of her lifestyle. My mother says that it was just her time. My mom believes that everyone's life is written. You can't really predict life and we must all go that route eventually, but it's still so hard to believe!