3some advice (adding a female)?

Don't do it!!!! You are married and that should be enough for him... It will only cause problems and he might feel like he has the right to sleep with other women.And I agree 100% 1 on 1...Good Luck!!!!

This is not a good idea at all. You want to make him happy. What about your happiness? Does he not care about that. Lets face it most men (if not all) fantasize about having a 3some at one point or another. That's all it should be a fantasy. If you were 100% on board maybe then it would be different, but its obvious you are not.

The only person I ever knew that was involved in a married 3some. She was the other woman and the husband became obsessed with her. It was a horrible mess and ended in divorce and a restraining order on the hubby.

if you aren't into the idea of a threesome then it will end your marriage. If your sexual style is 1 on 1 then you will not enjoy this experience. If you are not interested in women then you will not enjoy this experience.

If you're already thinking that ending your marriage isn't a bad idea then skip the threesome and just head to the divorce lawyer.

Seriously, if you're not into the idea of a threesome and you're already feeling inadequate then you have no idea the lows your self esteem will plummet to AFTER you have the threesome and he starts pressuring you to have another. No matter what he's told you, this will NOT be a one shot deal. Once you agree to it, he WILL continue to pressure you for more.

Since you sound like your marriage is already over, skip the loss of self esteem and the self loathing cycle and go talk to an attorney.

Don't do it hon. Really. It WILL ruin your marriage. You already are uncomfortable with the whole thing and don't want to do it. That he's even asking you is a sign of disrespect for your feelings. He knows you don't want to and is ok with that. How do you know it will be just the one time? He will later say but you did it before come on... I say don't do it.

I asked my husband about this one day because I was curious why a man who loves a woman would ask her to do something like this if she so clearly didn't want to do it. He said that he's selfish and not thinking of his wife only his own wants and needs.

So there you have it, from a mans point of view.

I still say, don't do it.

I know my wife & respect her enough that even if I wanted a 3 - some I wouldn't ask. Would you call your husband asking you to do that which is completely against your morals (and comfort level) LOVE?

The only thing I find more pathetic is your willingness to even make this sacrifice for a man who obviously doesn't love or respect you. Do you have no self worth / respect? Do you not think you deserve something better out of life?

I have had 3somes with my wife (mfm, ffm). They are something that brought us together. I can honestly say that she enjoys the (ffm) a lot more then the (mfm). She tells me it is something about the feel of a woman. Open your mind and enjoy life. God might not be watching, he is to busy helping football players win games. Also we had fun and realized it was just sex. Sometimes sex is just sex. It might not be anything about you or something you lack. If you don't want to do it then don't but if you can give it a fair shot then just maybe you would like it. Have you been trying to get him to do something that he won't? If so tell him you will do it if he will do that.

You poor girl..the only person that matters is you! Would you give your child everything they want because it might make them happy? Have you ever done anything just for you? If not, this is your first step. Did you know the greatest sin is to sin against your self? That means: to do something you know is wrong for you is the absolute worst thing you can do. Since this is not want you want to do, say NO loud and clear. Look at the situation as though it were someone else and act accordingly. Reach out to friends and family. Do you have a Mom? If so, this is one of those times you really need her. Listen to her.

I was involved in 3somes for my ex 10 years ago because that is what he wanted. Not to say I didn't enjoy them in the moment but it's not what I wanted in our relationship.

It ruined everything and I sent him packing a year later. Proceed with caution my dear.. and expect for the worse. Involving another person in a marriage is never a good idea unless the both of you want it and are able to handle the consequences. Also if either of you are the jealous type it is going to be a HUGE fight afterwards.

Don't do it, this will open the flood gates for him to sleep with other women especially this other woman. Who's to say he wont have sex with this womb when u are not around. He can get the woman pregnant and have a child outside ur marriage. This isn't fair to you, ur husband is selfish and has failed to consider ur feelings.

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Honey, do not do this to please him. If it's not something YOU want to explore yourself, then it could easily undermine your relationship. If you already have serious doubts about it, don't even want to talk about it then the last thing you need to do is participate in a threesome.

I've had successful threesomes myself, but that's because it was something I wanted to pursue as well. It's not healthy to do something sexual just for the gratification of someone else, even if they are your husband. It'll leave you feeling bad about yourself and insecure about your relationship. Don't do it, it's not worth it.