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Will it work? Or will we both end up heartbroken?

Hi

Im with someone who I havent really known for too long. It started off meeting online via a dating webside. But now we talk all the time each and everyday. I receive texts from them all day and they send me off little things and vice versa.

The other day they told me they had fallen for me. We have yet to meet. But we have seen each other on webcams and pictures etc. I think ive fallen for them too as when they are not online i miss them. I miss them when i go to sleep and when i wake up and they feel the same.

However heres the thing.

They are moving to New Zealand after Christmas. For good. To live there. I have already agreed that although it may take time. As long as we are still like this now ill come for them. Ill move with them be with them for good.

If im honest I will happily give up everything I have here if it means me being happy. As big a leap as is it. And I know it sounds crazy,

But this person makes me feel like no one else ever has. And ive been with quite a few people one lasting for 2 and a half years.

Yesterday they told me that they couldnt keep doing this because it would be so hard when the time comes that it would be better to end things now. We spoke all night and decided that Its too hard to give it all up.

We both agreed that even though they will be across the world as long as we are happy and together it wont matter.

We have started to talk about what we can do and how we can keep things good.

I want to see this person before they go and so they do. But we are both so scared it will make things harder when they leave. So they are a little unsure and so am I.

I love this person. I know I do because my heart beats the very moment I receve a text or they are online. I dream about them and they are never out of my head. They make me smile more then anyone else. And they tell me all the time how much they like me and love me etc etc.

Will this work? I know I can do this if the end means Ill be with them and like I said I will go with them but it will be after they have moved as Ill need to get all my stuff sorted first. It may seem odd regarding them moving to New Zealand but I wont go into it at all. It was planned before I met them as previous things in the past have made them ship up bascially. There family live over there so they are basically going home.

So to basically sum up.

Do you think I will see this person before they go?

Do you think this will work?

Am I crazy?

thanks x

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Hi "In Love", I believe you have fallen in love with love and that is very apparent in your memo.

    Nothing wrong with someone online falling in love. You did not mention discussing any areas that you found you have in common. If you can talk for hours on end, you must know a lot about that person but are there common areas in which you can grow together in doing. How one can be so serious as you obviously are can be very dangerous when you finally get together. Being "in love with love" can lead right to an intimate encounter, especially if you know you will soon separate. You will be very anxious to hold each other and do all those other things one does in such heated situations. What to do?

    Not an easy answer, but do be sensible about your decision or you might come away pregnant!

    Any relationship which is to have the nature of true personal encounter, must be based on honest, open, gut-level communication. Your memo doesn't tell us if that is what you discussed in your lengthy online dates. Best wishes as you make this most difficult decision. Skip

    Source(s): Have been counseling for several years.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    For me it would be too big a leap to move to NZ for someone I've NEVER MET. Even if the relationship did work, how long would it last? It might start out great and fall apart after a few years. Moving the other side of the world to be with someone you've never met is comparable to marrying someone you've never met, in terms of commitment, to me anyway. I think you'd be better off giving up on this and finding someone that you can really get to know.

  • Vicky
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Do you think I will see this person before they go?

    - that's entirely up to you. Why haven't you met yet? Whats stopping you?

    Do you think this will work?

    - Probably not. Long distance relationships are hard at the best of times - even couples who've known each other well for years can struggle. You can't possibly really know someone you haven't spent any real time with and you can't spend real time with a person you haven't physically met yet.

    Am I crazy?

    - crazy, no. unrealistic and a little deluded, yes. sorry!

  • 1 decade ago

    long distance relationships are extremely difficult and do cause alot of heartache but if the love is strong enough then it will all be worth it in the end, just relax and follow your heart! :)

    Source(s): in a long distance relationship, been together for 2 years all been worth it so far!
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