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Basically, my boyfriend thinks my sex drive is too high. No lie.?
I've always had a "higher than normal" sex drive, but lately, since I've turned 28, it's been through the roof. I jump his bones all the time. So, when he and I were on the phone tonight, he said that we were going to hang out tomorrow, but there would be no sex until next Sunday. My head probably did a 360-degree turn, and he could tell by my silence that I was a little flabbergasted about it. He says that since our relationship is basically new, we should step back and evaluate it on a non-sexual level. In other words, he's starting to feel like "a piece of meat". So what gives? He knew from the beginning that I liked to get it on, but I feel like he now has a problem with it or thinks there is something wrong with it. I'm not having sex with anyone but him.
Thank you all who have answered so far, and Seeker, thank you, as well, but I don't have a problem with the fact that he has his head on his shoulders; as a matter of fact, that's one of the things that I love about him, but I've done everything in my power to show him that it's much more than just about our sex life, good though it may be. I love spending time with him, and I respect that he cares enough about our relationship to do this, but I don't like the fact that he doesn't seem to trust me or believe me when I do show him and tell him that I love him for who he is, and not what he can do for me in the bedroom. If it were just about that, I wouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place.
And when he found out I even had toys, he said (half in jest) that they made him feel like he wasn't enough for me. I mean, what gives? I really care about him and I really want this to work, but would he rather I be a prude and not give him any? I don't know how to meet him halfway on this. I'll give him his week off so we can put things in perspective, but what's wrong with a woman wanting to have sex with her man?
8 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
There's nothing wrong with having a high sex drive as a woman, I would say. on the other hand, maybe he wants to make sure you have more than that in common. Show him that you like him for him, and then on Sunday, let him know that although you like him for his mind, his body needs to be part of the package too.
- 1 decade ago
Wow, a guy with his head on his shoulders...and a lady who is frustrated about it? Usually it's the other way around.
He's trying to view it from a realistic perspective and see it as a real relationship apart from just a sex-only attraction...and you're trying to prevent that? I'm not sure that's classified as a real relationship. There are relationships that are more real than that, and the people have never had sex at all - but they know each other very well.
- fairladyLv 41 decade ago
Solution one: sex toys
Solution two: find another guy to tide you over until boyfriend stops being a girl about the sex
Solution three: a combo of the first two, but w/o boyfriend
Sorry to say that there are guys that get emotional about sex and can't just enjoy it. They are a rare breed (prudeist maximus) and it looks like you may have to romance him to bed him.
- 1 decade ago
Wow!! that is every guys 2nd fantasy, probably in the world. You have to give him until Sunday right? It it is on the up and up then cool. If he is not in the relationship for the sex also you at least have been having fun.
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- wutatoolLv 41 decade ago
Your boyfriend sounds like a putz!
I wish my woman had your problem because it would not be a problem in the least bit.
Believe me when I say that if things don't work out with him, you will have no problem finding a man that is more than just accepting of your "problem".
Most men, including me, would be overwhelmingly grateful to have a woman like you with your "problem" and 100% willing to help you work through it together!
Good luck, either way!
- 1 decade ago
maybe he isnt comfortable with sex, or doesnt like having sex with you, or maybe he feels like you only want him for sex. make him feel needed for other things, tell him he is cute or cuddly he needs to know you like him for other things besides his sex.
