My 17 yr son does what he wants! He already has a 4 month old baby! What can I do?

Well hes young. Young people make stupid mistakes. Try your hardest now, and when he turns 18 tell him he has to get a job and has to either pay for rent at your house or move out. He needs more responsibility. So im betting you that until hes about 25-30 he'll be the same. Then when it hits him, he'll really think about his life, and try hard to fix it. Thats when you help him. If hes going to make mistakes, he has to fix them. He sounds like a stupid kid, no offense, but he does for being so irresponsible. I feel im smarter and more responsible than him, and im 13. And his kids gonna end up like him unless the kid is smart and learns he shouldnt be like his mom and dad. Do the world a favor and help them raise the kid so their not also messed up. Make the kid a good seed(:. But seriously, just try until hes 18 and then understand he needs to fix his own mistakes, because mommy and daddy wont be there to help bail you out every time.

Like Lyndsey said, you can call the police and once they find out a 19 year old is having sex with a 17 year old, things won't look so good for her. If I were you, I would do it.

As for your son, he has a child now, so even though he is 17, he has to take responsibility for his child. I wouldn't dare let ANY child of mine live in my house with that attitude! I would have kicked him out a long time ago! If you give him advice and try to help him, but he doesn't care; deal with him until he's 18, then kick him out!

Come on, be tough. You don't deserve that! He's your foster child, meaning you adopted him and taking care of him even though he's NOT your biological son! He should be be gracious of you.

He doesn't deserve the help you are giving him now. Let him face the consecuences of life and raising a child.

Hope this helps.

By the way. Your son obviously doesn't know how to be a parent, so if I were you convince him to put the child up for adoption or another family member that's not you or him. You obviously cannot be the greatest parent ever if you let your children rule over you and let them do whatever they want and he's on drugs while his stupid girlfriend will probably end up in jail. Sorry, but I'm completely honest. It's for the safety of the young one.

Im only 15 years old so I am going to give advice from a teens point of view. I have had issues with drugs and alcohol in the past, I actually recently was caught at school w/ .225 level alcohol, but besides the matter I think that all you can do is let him learn the hard way, its how I did. Take his drivers license too if you have to keep him from her, but other than that just give him his space and let him fall on his own. He will eventually learn if things get tougher and tougher, but giving him more room for freedom and helping him nonstop doesn't teach him anything, jail will.

I wish you luck on this matter and Im sorry that you try as hard as you do but it seems he doesn't care. :(.. good luck!

He is ill prepared for life, but like a lot of teens, he has his own agenda. Just keep trying and be supportive and set ground rules and yada yada. I had some foster teens myself and it is no picnic.

If he is out of high school, he needs to get a job or be working on his GED. You can only do so much and then they have to learn the hard way and you have to sit back and watch it.

Not fun. I know. :0

Don't let it get to you if others judge your parenting skills harshly, easy for them to say, not so easy to do.

As for the girlfriend, you can call the police and slap a statutory rape charge on her. And for your son, how about getting him involved in a good youth group at a church? I went to a youth group as a teenager and I loved it. It would be a good and positive environment for him and hopefully have a positive influence on him.

Have you considered a late term abortion? It's not viewed as "murder" in the eyes of the law until the child has reached age 18, at which point he is legally an adult.

Well, you shouldnt have taken a foster kid, and he should be taken away from you bc your a bad foster parent.

I dont know how he is still with you when obviously your not doing your duty as a foster parent.

He has been doing drugs and getting caught with them.. uhm why havent they taken him away?

Get rid of him, and dont get anymore foster kids.

The only way he will ever be "on his own" is when you put him out. That's probably what he needs, if he insist on doing what he wants let him do it else where.

well ain't you parent of the year , looks like its a little to late