Is it faire to call you lazy, if you quit your work to take care of your sick father as a full time job?

As long as your taking care of him your not being lazy. Now if you were sitting at home watching tv and eating chips all day that would be lazy

First of all you are not lazy. You are a wonderful daughter and person for being selfless in putting your life aside to help take care of your father. Any parent would be proud to have you as a daughter. As far as your mom calling you lazy please don't take it literally. I am sure that she is overwhelmed as much as you are with the whole situation. Taking care of a parent or anyone one for that matter that can't take care of themselves is very stressful and demanding. Second you shouldn't feel bad or feel guilty for wanting to live your life now. You have every right to live a full and productive life. I am wondering if you and your mother have tried getting a full or part time nurse to help out with the caring of your father. You can get help from the state with that if your parents' insurance doesn't cover that. I wish you luck and good fortune. Talk to your mother and tell her how you feel and maybe you both can come to a decision on what to do to help your father.

You're not lazy. You're an adult and you need to have a life. It isn't your job to take care of your father for the rest of your life. You have put your time in to help him and now that you have done what you feel is necessary, it's your turn to go back to your life and be your own person. Your mother may be worried that she can't do it alone or angry that she is going to be the person responsible for him, now. Either way, you need to talk to her. If she continues to be stubborn, then tell her that it's your time to live your life now and that if she has a problem with it, she can get over it.

Protesting at a funeral of a person that gave their life overseas is unconscionable. Privacy laws are virtually unenforceable in America (this has little to do with the Patriot Act, there just isn't much on the books, even before the Patriot Act, to defend American's privacy, believe it or not...), and, not tortuous, for the most part, but, I hope the man wins his suit!

Re-establish your friendships-you'll need their support.

You are to be commended, and your conscience is clear. Nothing wrong with carving out some time for yourself. You're entitled to it.

If you hadn't taken care of both him, and your mother, that's another story. You went above and beyond.

Not taking away from someone else's suggestion, but look into the Visiting Nurse service, or health programs your state has for seniors.

Good luck

You work very hard with the full time job of caring for your father So no it is not faire to call you lazy nothing but respect to you

I would say do what you think is best. If you think your father is the most important thing, stay with him and your mother. But if you think your own health and well-being is more important (it really probably is) then take care of yourself.

No way..your not lazy..sounds like your Mom doesn't much care for your Dad..YOU will be rewarded in the afterlife for your unselfish good deeds!

You responded to a situation that required attention. Did it for altruistic reasons - now you are being told your efforts weren't appreciated.

If your father will be okay without you there, you should return to your own life and let your mother find out how much relief you provided.

giv some time for your father but dnt loose your freedom.. u shouldnt have quit ur job.. if possible better get bak to work n search a gud job... evrythin will be f9.. may god bless.. tkcr