My bf calls me fat and other stupid names. I am also pregnant and really don't know how to make him stop.?

Ok Im assuming this is his baby so you really don't want to just disappear but you do need to get away from him. You said he was physically abusive before and now he stopped b/c your pregnant but he really hasn't stopped, he's mentally abusive now!

Im in the same boat as you. Im 5 1/2 months pregnant too and married but my husband does NOT do that to me. If he says anything, its something small and he will laugh and say jk! But he loves that Im pregnant. (and yes my nipples have just gotten HUGE! and they leak too.) You should not stop caring about your appearance b/c this is a wonderful time in your life and believe it or not. A LOT of mean think pregnant women are SEXY!! I should know b/c my husbands one of them lol.

If you live with him, you need to move out. Stay with your parents or some friends but you really need to get away from him. If you dont live with him then you need to stop seeing him. Tell him your sick of the way he treats you and your not putting up with it anymore. I hope he's not the type to go crazy and come after you!

So that being said here is my email. kmelhorn89@yahoo.com Email me if you need to talk to someone. Im really concerned for you. You have enough stress as it is being pregnant!

:( This really sad, your boyfriend is a JERK. Don't go any further, just leave him. Don't listen to anything he says if he wants you back, because he sounds like a jerk. And he's physically abusive? I wouldn't even think about staying with him. Your having a baby! It's not good to bring a baby into the world with a boyfriend like that, you need to have your parents help you. And switch colleges! This guy is a jerk. He works with fast food? And he's fat, explains everything. And you sound like your going through a LOT of things, so you have an excuse for the weight gain, but you should try and loose some weight. Good luck, and I really, hope you can leave him. (:

Tell him that if he doesn't stop he's gonna be walking funny for a week, and that you know... he won't be able to conceive again because his sperm factory (testiis) will be highly compromised.

Or you can tell him that medical research has proved that pregnant women are more susceptible and get irritated very fast (scoop much?), and if the situation gets out of hand, the woman, you in that matter, will be suffering from a postnatal depression, meaning that, you won't be loving your little baby once he or she is born and you'll have him to blame. And the only way to stop a postnatal depression is having the guy take EXTRA good care of his depressive wife, which isn't that much fin (you should mention that, too)

And if he doesn't take that seriously, then kick him in the f u c k e n d i c k !!!!

The best thing for you to do is to completely have him out of your life and the child's. Evidently he has some issues with you and also the pregnancy. If he is already starting to disrespect you now at a tender moment of your life, then think of how his attitude is going to change as he gets older and responsibilities start to building up.He is most likely going take his frustration verbally or physically out on you or your child. You mentioned how you do not want your relatives into the situation. He most likely can sense that and it gives him some sort of power over you.You should go to your parents and tell them what is going on and stay with them until you are able to take care of yourself and your child . A parent would feel more hurt and frustrated that their child is suffering and they could have helped. Family always stick together and help each other out. Together you are strong! That is what my grand-papa taught me.I hope that helps. Best of luck to you and your child! Good luck in college-good for you !!!

Reading this makes me very sad.Hun, you need to get rid of him! If he is abusive towards you even just "playfully" that is bad because he has a past history of abusing you. do you ever think of what he may do to your child? you are probably think"Oh, he would never hurt our child", But the reality of the situation is that he may hurt your child, maybe not until the kid is five but he may be abusive to your child in life. He is also mentally abusing you. CAlling you fat a** and things, its not right, and its really not ok because you are prego. Get a back bone and leave his Fat A**! If you are worried about money there are a tone of government programs to help you. there is wic(gives you formula,eggs cheese,cereal, and a tone of stuff for you and the baby.) there is also section 8 housing that will help with your rent, or they may even pay all of it depending on your situation. its all income based. Please, Please leave this guy!

here is the wic website call there 1800 number for info

http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/

section 8 website

http://portal.hud.gov/portal/page/portal/HUD/topic...

you can also ask your dr. for pamphlets on wic. and you can ask the wic office for other prgrams

O yea and food stamps here is the web site

http://www.fns.usda.gov/FSP/

I hope all this helps, call there numbers or go into an office to apply. good luck hun!

Okay, Oh my God! Well, first off, my suggestion is to ask yourself a question: Do you love him? If the answer is yes, then tell him, "You have to stop calling me names, it makes me feel bad,and when we have this baby, if the baby is hearing that, he/she WILL probably pick up on that, and may begin to do that also. Plus, tell him it makes you feel bad. If he doesn't care, dump his ***, you deserve better, and a better guy will come along that does care. My boyfriend and I joke around too, but we do not call each other names. If your answer to does he love me is "NO" then, that's your answer right there, get out of this relationship. If a guy is tearing you down, you should tell him, and if he doesn't care, then he's not worth your time.

Darling, he's not only physically abusive, but mentally and emotionally abusive. Trust me, they don't change. And you can get help. You have to get help. Please don't let your baby grow up in that environment. As a child who did grow up in a environment where I saw my mother take every form of abuse from different men in her life, I can say that's an awful thing for a chidl to live through. Get help. We eventually got help by going to SAFE place. It helped us be safe and to learn to live without a man. If you have good parents that will help you, then you should get their support. My dad spent my whole life calling me fat and degrading me. To this day, I still struggle with feelings of low self-worth and feeling like I'll never pretty enough for any man. I blame this on him. A daddy should tell his daughter and his wife that she is beautiful, a gem. The Bible says, "A woman of worth who can find. She is worth far more than rubies or pearls." You are worth more than any earthly thing. Your baby is a treasure as well. Please hear what I'm saying, "Get out." I will be praying for you. God knows your name and situation.

Okay I stopped reading after you said he used to be physically abusive. He's not being physically abusive anymore because you're pregnant, so what happens after you give birth? Will he revert back to his old ways? Do you not see what he is doing woman! He cannot be physically abusive so he is being VERBALLY and MENTALLY abusive! You need to leave this guy!!!! Go stay with your parents until you can find a place for yourself.

I guarantee your parents will put up with anything they have to put up with to ensure the safety of you and their grandchild.

A person like that is horrible to have in that type of situation. If he is joking about that, then he's a very immature kid that doesn't know when enough is enough; or if he isn't then he is an a$s.

It sounds like you have your head on straight except for one small problem that you can get rid of.

Sadly you ended up with a jerk for a boyfriend. The only way you can make him stop is if you dump him, then go to the courts and sue his *** for child support. Good luck.