How to get my stepson here for a visit.?

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My husband and I have been together for a little over 2 years, he has a 10 year old son and I have never even met him. His son lives in another state, but he is supposed to have him for visitation every other holiday and for a month out of the summer. He hasn't had him for visitation in over 6 years. Up until recently he didn't even know where his son lived, he finally tracked down his ex on myspace. He has called him a few times but most the time they don't answer the phone, or return his calls, and she is refusing to let him visit. My husband is not a bad man, as a matter of fact she cheated on him and left him for another man, then one day she just up and left and my husband didn't know where she was. He is too nice to take her to court, and he doesn't want to call the police or get her in trouble with the law  because he doesn't want his son's mother to be in jail. It kills me inside because I know how much he wants to have a relationship with his son, and I want him to be able to visit for Christmas, I want them to have a relationship before his son gets too old. I don't know what to do or what to say, I feel like she is just wrong for keeping her son away from his father, but all I am is the stepmother. What can I do?

EmF&#39;er · Accepted Answer

When you say "he is supposed to have him for visitation every other holiday and for a month out of the summer", was that court-mandated through the divorce (if they were married)? If so, he can probably request a hearing, maybe just a renewal or review of his rights? And I'm sure if he talks to a lawyer, there is a way to do it without really getting her in "trouble."

Tough situation...best of luck to you and your husband.

Common sense isn&#39;t anymore.. · Answer

"He is too nice to take her to court"

So instead he'd basically just abandon his son for 6 years? That isn't being nice, that is being neglectful and a bad parent.  

You can do nothing sadly. You are no relations to the child and he obviously doesn't care. Please, do not kid yourself, if he wanted a relationship, he would have one. He is saying that to you because he thinks it is what you want to hear, nothing more. An actual involved parent would have never let that happen andn would have filed contempt charges the second it came up rather than miss out on 60% of thier childs life. The child will probably not be allowed to go visit him without supervised visits as he is a total stranger.

Anonymous · Answer

He will have to go to court. He's letting his son down by not pursuing a meaningful relationship with him, and by letting him slip through his fingers and them be separated for years. He needs to man up.

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How to get my stepson here for a visit.?

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