I get angry and frustrated real easily mostly by people? im 14?

Hello. Welcome to puberty. Much of what you are feeling is caused by a combination of hormones as your body matures combined with lack of experience handling frustrating experiences and lastly, a not-fully-mature brain.

The most important advice that I can give you is to avoid using drugs or alcohol to cope. People who start using these often get stuck at permanent adolescent status because they can damage the brain and also take the place of the learning experiences that create growth.

Even adults who look cool, calm and collected may be seething inside. Remember to avoid doing things when you are angry. Try to sleep on decisions rather than make them when you are upset or hurt. If you feel a need to say anything nasty, don't commit it to paper. People will forget what you said, but what you write will be re-read again and again causing more hatred each time.

One last thing. Don't carry tales, and avoid people who do. You never know whether your "friend" is really giving you an accurate idea of what a third person said. They may alter words to be more dramatic. They may make what the other person said sound worse than it was or recount a joke or silly statement said in jest as if it was serious.

If someone ever says anything about a friend of yours tell them, "So and So is my friend, and I am not going to stand here and listen to things like that." Cut the negative talk right out. Don't pretend to agree and then tell the whole sordid thing to your friend. Perhaps the "favor" you do him or her will be to get them into a fight, having them expelled or injured. Some friend.

I hope this advice proves useful. Good luck.

That's called repressed rage. I have it too. It's characteristic of anxiety disorders :P It gets all pent up and can become obsessive. I know exactly how you feel.

This is gonna sound old, but try therapy, or a school counselor. They're there to help :) Even if you just bring it up to your parents they'll try to find you some help, and their awareness of how you're feeling is really going to be a big step in finding ways to deal.

If nothing else, find some old stuffies to rip up. I tried that once with my little sister and it made her feel better lol. Just make sure they're stuffies no one wants!!! Also, my grandmother used to get my mom to knead dough whenever my mom was angry as a kid. She would punch the dough and beat it up until both of them were laughing, and it was a good outlet. In lieu of dough, a pillow works.

Sports are also awesome for that. It's transformative.

i would try talking to some kind of theripist about this. that doesnt seem normal and i know its difficult to deal with things like this yourself. you may just need to talk your emotions over with somebody