help!! im 18 years old and 10 months ago i had an abortion. believe me i felt horrible and still do?

You obviously already know your options: either you get another abortion, or you carry it to term and give it up for adoption.

Nobody can make your decision for you. This is your responsibility, your body, and your life. You already know that abortion is nothing like getting your tooth pulled - it carries the weight of emotional strain that you're still experiencing from the last time you did it. However, pregnancy is comparably straining, especially for women that did not want a baby in the first place.

All I can tell you is what I would do: I would carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption to some wonderful people that cannot have a baby of their own. There are thousands upon thousands of people like that out there and you have their dream in your belly right now. After all that, you will sure take all the possible precautions for this not to happen to you again. Life is about growing and learning and the best way to learn is from your failures. Take this as one hell of a lesson and make sure that this time, you LEARN.

PS: That is why many people, including me, combine two or more birth-control methods (such as pill + condom). Also, what is done is done and whether or not this will break your mother's or grandmother's heart is inconsequential at this point.

Take care and good luck.

It is your choice to make. People always know hypothetically what they would do in your situation but often their beliefs change in the event that they end up where you are now. If you have the baby your life will be difficult but not impossible and if you abort, you have no way of knowing how you will feel afterwards. Some women go into depression after the abortion and feel guilty and regretful while others go on living life, relieved of their decision and knowing that the time just wasn't right. Do some research, talk to someone from planned parenthood where you can get unbiased advice on your situation. They would know better than anyone where to get resources for both abortion clinics as well as support networks and services for young mothers in your area. Whatever you do, don't make your decision based on what other people think including your parents.This is your life, your pregnancy, and your body. Make the decision that you know is right for you and one that you can live with because whatever you choose, the decision is permanent and one you cannot take back.

This is not a question that should be answered by Yahoo! users. You need to do what your heart says. Keep in mind, that an abortion is something that stays with you forever, not to mention two. I simply don't understand how some can live with themselves after doing it over and over again, but I am a firm believer in freedom of choice. It is, and should be, your call. As far as your mom and grandma are concerned, they will get over it. You are not the first or last teen to get pregnant. Now if I may ask you a question, why are you not using birth control?

If you regret it, but you don't think that you are emotionally or mentally ready to raise a child, the best thing to do and the most caring thing for you to do is have the child and give it to a family that can't have children. Adoption is a great thing, I wouldn't have met my boyfriend if it wasn't for it. The family that your baby ends up going to wants a baby, they want to raise it, they want to love it and they have the emotional and mental readiness to do so. Don't kill the baby, but be a better person and give it to someone who can give it what you ultimately can't. Adoption is not something to be ashamed of, it's probably the most loving caring thing that someone your age can do for their child. I'm sure that you're child will understand when they are older too that you gave them up because you loved them and realized that the family they ended up with was what you felt was the best for their well being.

And ps. Maybe the pain of labor might persuade you to use condoms or get on birth control!

Well I'm not going to bring in my personal opinion about abortion into this but I think you have one of two options. Either 1) Get another abortion. If you're okay with doing that. Although I think after this you need to learn your lesson and engage in safe sex. OR 2) Have the baby. I'm not saying keep it, but there are many families who would love to adopt a child and who cannot conceive one themselves. You know many women have come close to getting abortions and the ones who don't almost never regret it and love their child. But then again it's up to you. I don't know your financial situation or if you'd have support to raise the baby. Remember though, adoption is a great choice.

what do you want to do.

some people will be no dont have an abortion and some will go yeah have an abortion.

honestly they can say what they want because they are no in your position.

you shouldnt regret having an abortion because it was what you wanted to do

are you ready to be a mother at the age of 18?

have another abortion because you still have a lot of time ahead of you.

how are you and your boyfriend going to feed and care for the child when you dont have your own home?

in my opinion people that have a child at a young age and do not have a stable job will have so many difficulties for themselves and their child.

and working minimum wage jobs are just not going to cut it. it take thousands of dollars to care for a child.

you should go to planned parent hood to get birth control, condoms,etc.

if you want to have sex and not have another abortion take birth control and use condoms.

hope this helps.

Well, for one, you need to try not to get pregnant, birth control dude..seriously...I know you feel horrible about the abortion, i dont know anyone who wouldnt. BUT it happened again after that, your only option is to have another one, or give your baby up for adoption or keep it. Its only your decision. But you are an adult, your family might be disappointed, but you can have and raise a baby all by yourselve..

i understand that you are scared to tell them, but first things first. you and your boyfriend need to be more responsible by using a condom or you need to go get the 5 year shot that can prevent you from getting pregnant. you can go to Planned Parenthood to get any kind of help in your situation. I feel you should tell the truth to your mom no matter what. you are responsible for another life now and you need to get seriouse about your situation and if your boyfriend has a problem with wearing a rubber to protect the innocent children from being killed because of both of your actions then that doesnt say much for the love yall supposidley share! Please seek help from Planned Parenthood!!! And stop having sex if you arent ready to stand up to the responsibility of a child!!!!! That is soooo unfair to the innocent lives that you are creating and then killing because of your own selfish needs!!!!! I am not trying to be mean, I am being as honest as i can, and you know deep inside that I am right. I am speaking from experience. God blessed you with another child so please dont kill your baby that cant defend itself, and if you see no other way after going to Planned Parenthood then please be more carefull making the choice when sex is a issue. Just stop having sex untill you grow up and can make responsible decissions! NOW, GO TELL YOUR MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For one thing in the future you should practice birth control, also consider getting another boy friend. If you can not keep this unborn child, have you considered giving it up for adoption to a couple who would cherish, love it and take care of it.

Take responsibility for your actions. If you don't wana break ur mom & grandma's heart why are you risking getting pregnant AGAIN...?

This might be cruel but it is the reality, I don't think you wana do this to another baby...

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