Any advice for a mildly confused teenager?

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It's called 'gay chicken'. If you don't know it, here's the basic rundown:

1) 2 guys or 2 girls play at once
2) They have to move in like they're going to kiss each other
3) Whoever backs away is the chicken
4) Whoever doesn't is gay
5) If neither of them do and they kiss, they're both gay.

Do you think this would count as a real first kiss (ha ha not me lol)? Me and my friends played this at a sleepover. It wasn't the first time I'd questioned my sexuality, and these are some of my best friends I've ever had. They're really great, they treat me right and we share everything. Katie and Chris were basically glued at the lips the whole evening (no they didn't go any further), and me and my select group of female friends have this little game in which we basically touch each other up and see who backs out first ('Nervous'). I always win! However, whenever guys join in it gets boring, and I feel almost violated when they try to move on me. I'm much more comfortable playing around with the girls. They aren't lesbians (as far as I know) and they often go along with it, humoring me. None of my school friends would ever dream of doing anything like this (mainly because one of them is a fundamentalist christian who believes that all gays go to hell). Is this kinda normal? Seriously, I have absolutely no desire to be near a guy, sleep with one, kiss one and i can't see myself in twenty/thirty ish years married to one with 2.4 kids and a dog. Any advice?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think you may be a lesbian if you have absolutely no desire to be near a guy, kiss, sleep with or marry and have children with a guy. As for does that count as a real first kiss I'm not really sure. I count my first kiss as my first kiss where we both really liked each other and wanted to be together. Holy sh*t invite me to one of your sleepovers and I guarantee I will not back down or lose in "gay chicken" or when you play "nervous." I wish I had a group of friends that were that comfortable with their sexuality to do that. your friends may not be lesbians but they may be bi- curious or just want a playful way to experiment. I have never been with a girl although I think two of my friends are bi, but if you were bi -curious asking them how they feel about the games or their sexuality could help.

? · Answer

Ok like i feel the exact same way i dont like girls like that well up top yea boobs are great but no i seriously cannot see myself with a girl and like guys are sooooooooooo hott lmao so i consider myself bi lol bi's have more fun and at this point in my life all i want is to party and have fun while i still can lol dont get me wrong im a a/b honor roll student and o got a 100 in chemistry lol but heres the test me and my lez friend made when u look in a crowd, a street or any were what do u enjoy lookin at girls or guys it worked for me hope it works for u

Mike A · Answer

There is a very good chance that you are lesbian. I have never heard of  "gay chicken' before, but it definitely sounds like a game directed towards bicurious girls. 

I  would say that your whole group of friends are feeling out their sexualities, and frankly have done you a favor by allowing this kind of experimentation.

I would say that if you wanted things to get more interesting, suggest a game of strip poker, and then a game of gay chicken after that. Might get interesting.

Anonymous · Answer

u sound like a lesbian lol, im a lez and me and my friends didnt do that, i think mainly cause i live in a small town and no one would ever think to do that (except me lol) but ur feelings are normal, cause thats what i felt like my whole life lol, never once thought about guys, except when i was thinking bout his girl lol

Anonymous · Answer

Lol teens are so weird

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