My husband had an affair with someone he works with. I know her husband, and he has no idea. Should I tell him?

I would surely inform him of his wife's out of the home activities. He has the right to know and why should she simply walk away untouched when your hurting and her husband is under the illusion all is plain sailing. IWho's to say that she wouldn't do it again but with someone else. I would tell him face to face as anonymous sometimes can be put down to nasty rumors. Someone just stirring the pot. In this case it is true, but how is he to know that. Good luck on you and your husband trying to work it out. I wish you all the best and hope that you guys can work through it.

My question to you is...what would telling her husband solve? I have been there and understand how you feel. What if her husband goes to the job and causes some serious problems? Do not seek revenge, concentrate on your marriage. In time, her husband will find out what he needs to know and prayerfully you and your husband would have moved on. I guess my point is, don't seek revenge on her. I am sure you will deny doing this and say that you are truly concerned about her husband being in the dark; however, you probably feel like she is not suffering for the wrong she has done.

If I was in your situation I would have told her husband as soon as I found out. It is the worst to be the last one to find out that your significant other is cheating on you AND everybody else knows.

I would give him the info, with enough detail that he knows you are telling the truth and then move on. It's easy to get caught up in that sort of thing but if you do it will end up hurting you and your relationship in the end.

Give the details, make sure he gets the info and that's it!

Good luck

Well, as a man, I would tell you to stop being a party-pooper and get in his business. BUT, as she has made it your business, you are completely within your right to do whatever you believe is the best choice. My advice would be to ALWAYS stick with the truth, and honesty, so whatever you feel is right, go for it! Good luck with your husband, I hope you resolve this mess.

Although you may feel like you are being a "*****" by telling her husband, you have a responsibility to tell him what is going on. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if no one told you about an affair that your husband had? However, you should first speak to her and determine whether she is going to tell her husband what she did. It is better for her to tell him if she is willing to.

Better left alone. At least you are trying to work it out. I know some women who would do the opposite and get revenge and go screw her husband just out of spite.

Let me ask you this, how do you feel right now and why do you want this woman's husband to feel that way. Leave him alone if he doesn't already know he'll be just that much happier with his life.

I honestly don't know what's the best thing to do, but you have to consider, if you tell this guy, what will he do to your husband? You know she's a liar. What if she blames everything on your husband?

Make sure you have a good life insurance on your husband before you let "everyone" know.

Before you think about doing that, ask yourself this: how would YOU have reacted had someone told you that way? Would you even have believed it? Honestly, I would not advise doing so; it sounds vindictive. That is her secret and her burden to bear. And how are you so sure that he does not know?