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. asked in Society & CultureHolidaysRamadan · 1 decade ago

I have a problem? Reversion problem?

i am thinking about converting/reverting, but i have two problems

1. i am married and 2. i am a mom

i fear that if i revert/convert my husband will divorce me & we will have an ugly custody battle.

What should i do?

Update:

i am not a troll

the reason i have only 1 point left is because i really dont answer questions that much

Update 2:

i ask questions more than i answer them..

i dont know why...i just do

Update 3:

Baddest Troll- my child is only a few months old,lol

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    awwww :( Maybe tell your husband about islam? and get some muslim guys around him and make sure you pray

    I think you are already a muslim at heart if u are "thinking" about converting

    Save yourself first, then save your family members. Get them educated and make sure you pray to Allah to guide them

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Whoever fears Allah, Allah will make a way for him sooner or later. If you revert and ask Allah's Help you will see His Miracles Shine as though there are thousands of moons in your hand and an ligh is illuminating through you by which the people around you cannot harm you. If you have proof then he cannot take custody of your child. Till your child doesnt reach puberty he is safe from the non islamic lifestyle. Tell him if you truly love me then you will not do that. And by the way if your husband is not a muslim then you cannot be married to him and you would have to divorce him. Talk to the nearest mosque authorities.

  • 1 decade ago

    Anything you leave for the sake of Allah (SWT), Allah (SWT) gives you something better. A Muslim woman cannot be married to a non-Muslim man. So if you revert then you'll have to divorce your husband in line with Islamic teachings from Allah (SWT). If a Muslim woman divorces she has custody rights to young children until they reach a certain age (7 I think for girls and 9 for boys or it could be the opposite I'm not really sure) and then they go live with the father. If she remarries after her idda (3 months during which she cannot get married again to ensure she is not pregnant, and if she is pregnant then her idda is until the baby is born) then she forfeits all rights of custody of her children to the father. This is to ensure the children, especially the girls are not mistreated or raped/sexually abused by their stepfather and because a woman usually cannot do anything against her new husband. The mother cannot visit her children in her ex-husband's home and the children cannot visit their mother in their stepfather's home due to non-mahram issues.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If they really love and respect you and your values, they shall support your every move/decision,

    else

    your choice.

    Set your priorities, do remember the unspoken (rather forgotten fact)

    that everbody dies,

    i shall die someday, so shall my parents, my children, and everyone else.

    You have a choice at hand,

    Either to live a life in disbeleif / indoctrinism or to convert to a better lifestyle/religion.

    MOst people confuse islam to be a religion alone, and nothing else.

    Islam is a complete 'Way of Life'

    where you submit your will to non other than Allah alone.

    By this time you must have realised the fake values the media portrays as a Happy lifestyle,

    where materialistic goals are presented as the only ones to be seeked / persued.

    This is the hard truth of life.

    Wake up from the mass hypnotism, and realise for yourself the bias/indoctrinistic/absurd moral/social/religiours values that the 'free media' so often portrays.

    Wakeup.

    breathe.

    and understand the truth and then follow it.

    be brave.

    only you can and should be able 2 handle it, cause this is your life.

    your choice, your decision.

    the western hypocritic culture, or islam.

    p.s. ever wonder why Islam is denaoted as a terrorist religion all of a sudden, and Al Qaeda is a terrorist organisation.

    whereas KKK is NEVER called a christian terrorist organisation. this is just one example of how media controls your mind , body and soul.

    May Allah guide you to the rightful Path i.e. Islam.

    Source(s): Devoted Muslim and a keen observer of this illusive world.
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  • hmm i'm not sure if you're trolling or not, but w/e :)

    when you revert, you may have to divorce your husband anyway b/c it is important that you are with someone who can help you provide full islamic support for your children--who's islamic knowledge you are responsible for until they are able to think for themselves

    perhaps the best way to approach this is with the "healthy foods" method:

    a caring mother who finds that healthy foods are better than junk food

    would tell her husband and children to avoid junk food to stay healthy, right?

    so when the same caring mother finds that an islamic way of life is better than a non-islamic way of life, she should tell her husband and children to practice it to keep their faith healthy

    you don't have to say it's Islam, but suggest and implement the Islamic lifestyle

    dress modestly, avoid pork, teach your children about the oneness of God...etc.

    give it some time and then introduce it as Islam

    that way, it's not so much of a shock as it could have been

    :)

    peace and best wishes

    Source(s): : easier said than done i'm sure but you have to figure out what your priorities are: a wrongful way of life or leading yourself and your children to the straight path so that both may grow up as great Muslims and believers of Allah
  • 1 decade ago

    u should at least believe ," There is no God but Allah and Prophet Muhammad is the last messenger of Allah" .(better is to say in the mosque but if can not say ,it's fine to believe only)

    That's it and u are Muslim.

    Now do not tell your husband immediately. watch beautiful Islamic videos with him and with your children in Holidays.

    such as http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIxIk2Wta58

    and

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqW32i6wQP0

    Here is a Gift of Quran for u my sister for being a Muslim InshAllah

    http://www.harunyahya.com/Quran_translation/Quran_...

    Source(s): for more links watch my prof or mail me ....slow and steady wins the race !
  • 1 decade ago

    three words

    rely on GOD

  • 1 decade ago

    tell husband that he will burn in hell if he doesnt accept islam , he will understand

    Source(s): friendly advisor
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    She became Muslim recently and feels anxious about the future

    I am a muslim convert. I try to prey veryday and read quran,but I have always full of worries about future like something bad thing may happen to me etc.,especially at night. Can you pleases tell me what to do?.

    Praise be to Allaah.

    Firstly:

    We congratulate you for this great blessing that Allaah has bestowed upon you, which is the blessing of entering Islam and finding enjoyment praying and reading Qur’aan.

    Secondly:

    You should try hard to offer the obligatory prayers at the right times as defined in sharee’ah. There are five prayers each day and night. Prayer represents connection and conversation between a person and his Lord. It is the most important pillar and obligatory duty of Islam after the Shahaadatayn (twin testimony of faith), and it brings light to a person in this life and in his grave in the Hereafter.

    You should also strive to offer naafil (supererogatory) prayers after doing the obligatory prayers, for Allaah says in the hadeeth qudsi: “My slave does not draw near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My slave continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6502.

    Thirdly:

    The anxiety and fear that you are feeling about the future are things that happen to some people when they first become committed in their adherence to Islam. Perhaps the reason for that is that the Shaytaan is annoyed by the person’s beginning to follow true guidance and the path of Mercy, so he tried to divert him from that, and he whispers to him doubts about Allaah that are not appropriate, in order to cause him grief and worry. This – praise be to Allaah – will not harm the believer. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, when some of his companions complained to him about the waswasah (whisperings from the Shaytaan) that they were encountering: “Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great. Praise be to Allaah Who has reduced his (the Shaytaan’s) plots to mere whispers.” Narrated by Ahmad (2097) and Abu Dawood (4448); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. A similar hadeeth is to be found in al-Saheehayn.

    You should read Qur’aan a great deal and remember Allaah (dhikr), for no one ever protects himself against the Shaytaan with anything like remembrance of Allaah, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, especially the dhikrs that are narrated for specific times and occasions, such as the dhikrs for morning and evening, for sleeping and waking, for going out of the house and coming in. You should also cleanse the house of anything that may prevent the angels coming in, such as dogs and images.

    Remember that the future is in the hand of Allaah and that whatever Allaah has decreed will come to pass. Your fear and anxiety about it will not change it at all. So keep busy with things that will benefit you and think well of Allaah, for Allaah is as His slave thinks He is, as He says in the hadeeth qudsi: “I am as My slave thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7066; Muslim, 2675). Ahmad (16059) narrated with a saheeh isnaad: “I am as My slave thinks I am, so let him think of Me as he wishes.”

    So think that Allaah will honour you, have mercy on you and give you happiness in this world and in the Hereafter, because He loves His righteous slaves, and honours His pious slaves. You – praise be to Allaah – are new in Islam and have few sins to your record. So be assured of a life of tranquillity, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)”

    [al-Nahl 16:97]

    We ask Allaah to guide you and give you strength, and to take away the fear and anxiety that you are experiencing.

    And Allaah knows best.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think you are a troll with 1 point left!

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