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OK to break up with someone AFTER Christmas?
I know that it's generally bad karma to break up with someone right before Christmas. The insinuation is that you didn't want to have to buy that person a gift. Also there's the depression that already hangs over-head for those who don't have family, lost a loved one or ... well has gotten broken up with right before the holiday season. It sucks - haven't been through it but I can't imagine the pain that would cause. Not wanting to inflict pain on the guy I'm seeing (and seriously not wanting to really be alone myself) I know that it's not working and I need to end it. But I'm wondering what your thoughts are on ending it AFTER Christmas and New Years. I don't want him to think I waited until he got me a gift - because it's so not the case. I should have ended it months ago, but thought it would get better and then he told me he's in love with me - which only made me feel worse. I love him, but I'm not "in love" with him. There are reasons, none of which I'll go into now, but please just tell me your thoughts. Breaking up with someone is NEVER easy, but if I can make it as painless as possible, I will.
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Like you said, it wont be easy for him no matter when you break up with him. I think that you should break up with him after Christmas (get him a really nice gift, so it wont seem like you waited just for the gift). If you two planned on spending Christmas together, it will be better that way because he won't have to celebrate it alone (or without you!). But if you feel like you should break up with him now, do it. It's your choice...hope I helped :)
- 1 decade ago
Well the fact is that your feelings are either there or they are not and you can't help it that they are not. It just happens to be xmas time. Maybe the holidays have you down and maybe for some other reasons that is why they are not there. If you do choose to end it after xmas, I would talk to him and give him the gift back. That is the right thing to do so he knows you were not in to just get the gift and run. Are your feelings really not there at all. I know the holiday has me a little down. I am seeing someone and this time of year I miss my ex husband and the family we had together.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
that's bad because then you're just getting your gift and breaking up with them. break up before christmas and new years so he can spend time and buy a gift for somebody who actually likes him
- ?Lv 45 years ago
that's elementary to maintain putting it off. You reported your self you need to've broken up with him months in the past. speaking from experience, after Christmas and New Years, you will think of roughly Valentines day and which you will wait till after Valentines day, then they would be yet another trip till you're interior the comparable place next 365 days. purely end it. that's going to suck. that's going to harm. you will the two be unhappy, and depressed, yet truly curiously such as you have already regarded at. in case you have regarded at, yet do no longer choose for to be single for the trip trips, as wellbeing egocentric, you're finest him on, that's kinda merciless. in case you had broken it off with him weeks in the past, perhaps the two one in each and every of you would be spending the trip trips with some one new that makes each and each of you happy. the faster you do it, the fewer painful it will be interior the long-term. that's often appropriate to in uncomplicated terms be easy.
- ?Lv 41 decade ago
depends on if you;re just trying to get a gift or not... doesn't matter and they will have an excuse to get obliterated drunk in a few days at new year's anyways