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Well me and my ex broke up in June and we met each other in feb. We both liked each other very much but didn't get to the I love you part because I ended up moving to a diff state. But since then we still talk on the computer and text and what not every once in a while. She actually told me that im perfect in every way, and I think she just thinks that because she hasn't had a bf as good as me because her bf before me was a duesh bag and they dated for like 2yrs. We always IM each other and that's when she told me. She always says she wishes I never moved and things could have worked out. She also told me I love you on facebook but I haven't written back. Ive never been in love and came close once but she ended up cheating on me so im very protective of myself. I don't trust women very easy, so I don't know what to think about that. I really like her and could even see myself marrying her some day. But I don't love her yet. Im gonna see her again after I graduate basic training for the army and will see her from april-june next year. I told her she could come and visit me after i get settled down and find out were ill be stationed at, and she said she defiantly will. So what do you think about it and what should I say back about her loving me. Im not ready to tell her I love her but I don't wanna hurt her feelings.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well if you don't love her and probably never will love her to like the fullest extent...then I'd go for some other girl...I mean...she cheated on you after all...and what's going to stop her from cheating on you in the future...I'm pretty sure she isn't going to like any more in the future than she is now. That's usually how it works...you love them to death at first but then it just gets kinda lame being stuck with them. I think you guys would only be the best for each other if you both loved each other so much that neither of you would cheat (like she did in this case) AND neither of you would even question that you love her. You'd KNOW that you love her and she'd KNOW that she loves you. But that's not the case here :P I dunnoo...I just wouldn't want to get stuck being married with someone who cheats on me behind my back but that's just my opinion. You can do whatever ya want. :)

bearhug · Answer

First off don't tell her you love her if you really don't... also don't be like me, when my ex told me he loved me i replied "are you sure? you can take it back if you don't mean it" Just tell her something like how much she means to you. I didn't tell my ex I loved him until after a month of when he told me. As for the relationship, I like to believe the "if you are meant to be together, you will end up together" but just follow your heart. You can see her in your life 5 or 10 years from now go for it! But don't make her wait for you if you can't see her in your feature.

Anonymous · Answer

i think you should date her and see where it goes. Let her know about you past if she really loves you then she'll understand ur situation. Don't tell he you love her unless you do. Let her know saying "i love you" is a big deal and you'll say it to her when you really mean it. if she loves you like she says she'll understand. 

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Anonymous · Answer

Well, first of all don't make her wait.
And, if you're not in love with her, don't tell her you love her because that would hurt more than telling her you don't like her.

lola.mj. · Answer

Well be straightforward and tell her that your not ready to tell her that you love her. If she really loves you, she'll understand and accept it. It's best to be honest.

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