Why do people not think teenagers can fall in love?

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It seems like every time I like someone, or admire someone, it's automatic that I like 'the idea' of them, or the 'idea' of love, but not him. Why can't teenagers fall in legitimate love? And what's so different about falling in love with an idea vs. the real person? (I mean besides falling in 'love'/obsession with Edward Cullen.) If you like the idea of someone, that's enough to date them, right? And then what's with dating---there are so many people who date based on looks alone, or mere niceness or need of a girlfriend or boyfriend, especially in the younger grades. So what's the criteria of a relationship for teenagers? What do we look for? I mean I know people think, 'you're a teenager, so have fun with it', but how can you have fun in a relationship based purely on physical attraction? Or an 'idea' of someone? Or when you have nothing in common?

Most importantly, why are people trying to convince me I only like the 'idea' of someone, and if this keeps happening, won't I never really like someone, just the 'idea' of their relationship?

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Fonner N · Accepted Answer

What? This is rediculous. The 'Idea of someone'? What? That's not true. Maybe for some people. I'm 14 and I honestly know I've fallen in love with a girl. She's the most amazing thing ever. But anyway, yes, I guess it could be true that if you aren't looking for much of a relationship then u should just have fun with it. But if you really want to have serious relations with someone then you can. And there are shallow people, like those who date based on looks. There are those who look for many different characteristics to someone before dating them. Whichever one you are, you'll know. If you can't date or can't understand how someone could date based on just looks, then you aren't like that. Like me, I have to have very strong feelings for someone before I date them. Although I'm only 14 I really feel like I've had enough experience with girls and having feelings that I can answer these questions. Only liking the "idea" of someone? I really don't understand why people are saying that. That's not true. Don't listen to other people when it comes to this, listen to your heart. Trust me its a lot smarter about this stuff.

Wacawaca · Answer

The physical size of the teenagers brain does not reach adult mature size until the person becomes an adult. Because of this, and the rapid hormonal changes, teenagers often exhibit tumultuous behaviour. Their ideas change at the blink of an eye, and images change very fast, at least for some. They can be in and out of 'love' very quickly. This is also the basis of much confusion with teenagers and 'love'.

It all settles down when you get to be about 21 or 22 years old. Don't rush a good thing.

johnny cash · Answer

i dont know why people can say that but i know that doesnt apply for me and my gf we are both 15  and have been together now for 2 years and are deeply inlove

Anonymous · Answer

You'll know when your in love. Love is when you can't do anything without that person.

Emma · Answer

i think teens can fall in love. it could be cuz i am one and im in the sam e situation as you though. i think its stupid when people think you only "think" your in love

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Why do people not think teenagers can fall in love?

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