my buddy pissed me off and it's tearing me up?

me and my musician buddy from the gym) a veteran keyboard player just got into a discussion musically.i told him i was working on some scoring project type stuff.He responded withod you should actually do something with it(the music) and stop ******* around ).I immediately got mad at that staement(the messing around part)because i told him that i have some sick relatives i'm attending to,and for me i can't put it as much energy into the music as i want to.But then when i got upset,he said something along the lines as"the whole world wishes they had your guitar chops"," just feel you could be doing alot more than you are already doing right now". keep having to tell eople that i'm dealing with personal business.He said that if i was gigging more and having well paying gigs that i would find a way to fit it all in.He also said that i could play anything to another guy.It's just frustrating me and eating me up.I don't know how i should take all ofthis....It's seems like he was complimenting as a cover up,but anyway this is eating me up.We're fine now because i tried to see his point of view,but i'm still pissed how should i take this?He couldn't at least be a little understanding about my personal problems..