How can i spend new years alone and not be very sad?‎ I'm already sad just thinking about it :(?

You are only as happy as you make up your mind to be. All of my extended family live thousands of miles away, and because of my health and financial situation I haven't spent holidays with them for a long, long time. Rather than feel sorry for myself, I do something special for holidays, like make a special meal, bake something, do a little decorating, and watch a good movie, read a good book. I also give my family a call [or they call me], so that we can at least chat for awhile and wish them a happy holiday. I also make cookies or candy to take to some of my elderly friends who can't go out, and visit with them for a little while during the holidays. They like to know that someone cares about them.

We all have times when we aren't too happy. But it really is up to us to lift ourselves up out of the pits and make the best of things. Perhaps next year you will be in a happier place. Good luck.

It's not a stupid question. You're alone, in a new place, and you think it's terrible.

It is terrible. You have a right to your feelings. You're stuck there and lonely and sad and you would rather be home with people you know.

On the other hand, this is a year when you are alone. In a new place. And even though people may tell you to be optimistic and make new friends, what I have to tell you is entirely the opposite: right now, you should take the time to take stock of yourself. You're not going to have a lot of chances for that without distractions on New Year's eve. So take some time. Think about who you are, and who you want to be in the new year. Think about what matters about you, and what about you is strong and good and light.

Take time, this New Year's, to recognise that your identity doesn't come from other people. Sooner or later, we are all facing the Big Loneliness that's part of being human. And how you make your peace with it is really, really important. If you can handle being alone with yourself, if you can look in the mirror in the morning and be comfortable with what you see, it changes your life.

So let your life change. Accept that there are people around you, but that you, yourself, are there for your own exploration.

Find something meaningful to do. One good option is a burning bowl ceremony.

http://www.globalgoddess.org/oracle/wintersolstice...

Take time to look at the relationships in your life, and what they mean to you. See how you're whole, with them and without them. http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/12/31/alon...

You're not the only one. What matters is what you do with it; make this a retreat, a spiritual journey that lets you grow, because what you do when no one's looking matters more than anything. You have this chance to have some peace, to let go of your griefs and find meaning in the silence. Create something that has meaning to you for the New Year; it's a wonderful start that will leave you both lonely (that's okay, it really is, it's part of loving the people in your life) and strangely fulfilled.

I've had to do this. It's terrible, and unhappy, and wonderful too. It's like living alone, it makes you able to be around people better.

I hope your new year brings you incredible joy and happiness, and I'm sorry you have to be alone. But there is a lot you can do to be alone meaningfully, not just as a thing that's pushed on you, and this sounds like the perfect time! I'd love to read an update later on what you did to bring yourself closer to the year ahead!

For mine, it involved a hot bath, then some meditation, bells, a burning bowl where i let go of my pain and regrets from the past year, and then some singing when the new year came in. A lot of writing and thinking and considering during the eveining and new year's day. It was a little painful and beautiful and good.

No it is not stupid but your night is going to be how you make it. I am not sure if you drink or not but on new years everyone is out having fun so if you just go out to a bar or a club you will have fun laughing at other people. The joy of a new year no matter where you are brings happiness. But 1st I need you to get at lease a little excited. Look in the mirror and smile... if that doesn’t work watch CNN... there are allot of people including kids that are dying before Christmas and want have a family to go to or celebrate with for the holidays. So you have a lot to be happy about because it sounds like you have a family. It will be ok, just smile and make a sad situation into a fun one! Good luck, be safe and enjoy.

Think of New Year's as a regular day. Let it just go by. Why don't you find out where some of the New Year's festivities are in the country you are in, and go to them. End up at a big public party, and maybe you will find some good company and new friends. Don't spend New Year's by yourself, you will just end up more depressed. Seriously, find out where are the local parties/festivities and make yourself go. You will regret it if you don't do this. Staying by yourself will NOT help. Good Luck and happy new year!

Hi. I'm going to be alone on New Year's also. I just try to tell myself, it's just like any other day, so i shouldn't make a big deal out of it. But, it still makes me sad. I will probably just watch one of my favorite movies, and try not to think about it. Best wishes. Take care :-)

maybe rent a few movies order a pizza and watch movies!

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It is just another day you idiot. Just get some movies to distract you on that day.

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