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Should I attend Christmas Eve Mass with my family?

So tomorrow is Christmas Eve and my (Catholic) family will be going to mass. I, however, am no longer a practicing Catholic and have not been for many years. (I am 26, and haven't regularly attended mass since I was about 20.) Recently, I have come to realize that I most likely will not re-join the Catholic Church. My question is should I attend mass with my family? I would not enjoy or appreciate the service and would only be attending out of respect to my family. I hate doing things strictly out of a sense of obligation, but this is my family. On the other hand, maybe it's time to "cut the apron strings" so to speak. I also do not want to give my family members false hope that one day I will rejoin the church. Any advice would be appreciated!

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Facing up to ones inadequacies is a matter of identity and self esteem

    As God is Love, any thinking mind would marvel at Creation and ones place in it.

    Appreciation is a measure of maturity which comes of a due insightful mind.

    As a Catholic (lapsed or practicing ) you know that Mass is the centre of our faith: the

    mystery of the Eucharist. If one is to equate this LOVE with entertainment one needs

    a change of mind set.

    Personally I have little credentials ,, but I reckon you should enter into the "spirit" of the

    occasion and perhaps experience "the joy that surpasses all understanding"

    A Happy Christmas to you.

  • Lisa K
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Well, your situation sounds very similar to my own. In my life, I've chosen to attend mass with them. I know it's important to them, and I love them, and so I do it for them. In return, I hope that they show me the same respect. Besides, I might not have the same beliefs as those that they preach in mass, however, there are still some things I kind of like about attending church on Christmas eve. I like looking around the pews and seeing so many families gathered together. I like the sense of magic and Christmas cheer. I like Christmas story, even if I don't believe it, because it is an interesting story. I like trying to interpret and find hidden meanings and connections in the stuff that I'm hearing. And above all, I like having some time to quietly and calmly reflect inwards. If you go, you are not giving your family any more hope that you will rejoin the church than they already have with you sitting at home (If you don't go, you will look stubborn. If you do go, then you will look like you've made an intelligent and informed decision to leave the church). And remember, keep an open-mind about other's beliefs, because being a close-minded with any set of beliefs isn't good. Take care :)

  • Misty
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I don't think there is anything wrong with doing something out of obligation, we are all obligated to someone, especially our families.

    I am Catholic but I have sat through Protestant services for some of my family members, and I don't' mind a bit.

  • 1 decade ago

    You should attend with your family. Yet, you should also let them know that it is solely out of your love & respect for them. Stop thinking about your own feelings & embrace this time with your family--you never know when it might be the last time that you see one of them. I know this from personal experience.

  • 1 decade ago

    just go to mass with your family, to how respect.

    you havent been for 6 years so once in a blue moon wouldnt hurt.

  • 1 decade ago

    You should go because you want to show respect to your family & their religion.

  • Yes! Jesus was born on Christmas! It's his birthday. :)

  • 1 decade ago

    okay just go with your family it will show respect to your parents just go

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