My husband is becoming very anti-social...?

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My husband seems to be turning less and less social as he gets older. He NEVER wants to go out with my friends and family. He has one close friend that he rarely sees and no interest in making new ones, even though I know there are people who would be friends with him if he would go out and get to know them. Unfortunately, he is always finding fault in people and never gives them a chance. He completely shuts people out for pretty minor things. It's making me crazy! I know men are different from women when it comes to making friends but this seems extreme. I get tired of turing down invitations or, worse, going without him and having to make excuses about where he is. I love him and enjoy being with him, but how do I get him out of his shell? I have no problem doing things myself, but I'm tired of being alone ALL the time! Any advice?

Update:

I'm 40 and my husband is 43. We've ben married for almost 18 years and we have 2 kids.

letterstoheather · Accepted Answer

You didn't mention your ages, but the truth is, as i've aged (i'm 52), i've become less and less socially driven, myself.  I have a few friends i do things with, but otherwise, i keep occupied with my own interests and activities.  

I used to socialize all the time and was active in community groups as well.

I suppose that, if i get married again, i might go do things with my husband if he wants to, but not 100% of the time - and he'll know this before we ever get married.  

I seem to like my own little world these days much better than socializing.

NAYNAY · Answer

guys get to the stage in there life where the depressed...i know mydad is going through it...but anything can start it someone close to him passing away, working to much, problems with a friend. just ask him about it get him to talk to you it will take a lil while but he will open up

ann s · Answer

wow, did you marry my ex?  that sucks, I've lived it.  I made new friends and found new interests because he was this way  and then got pissy because I wouldn't sit at home and rot with him

you are couple, you should do things together

new man, we go and do everything together- we are happy!

Justa Guy™ · Answer

The older I get the more I hate society in general anyway. Your husband is smart.

Zaki E · Answer

seems like older people in general don't like hanging out. I don't ever plan to be like that at all

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he is suffering from depression.
Maybe his job stresses him out.
Maybe you stress him out?
Maybe your friends are giving him a hard time?

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