How do I stand by her side in all this?

aaw your so cute. yeah she shouldnt tell you that you dont have the looks...she's with you bc you have a good heart. keep yout head up ok dont let this get you down and try being patient with her shes going thru some stuff right now so just try to understand.

Good answers all and yeah I'd still love to kick her butt but it's not worth it. Left for good ain't looked back since. In fact I got her back really good after a traipse off to TX for some personal time myself htat is and other reasons. She wanted to "still be friends" well this friend of hers this girl went off on me for GOD knows what and I asked her if she'd put her friend up to it. She denied but frankly I'd had enough. Said if you don't hear back by days end you got your answer. Ain't contacted her since. Still wonder how the little girl now going on 10 this year 2015 is doing since her mother is whacko but whatever. Oh well. I'd really have to resist going off if I ever see her in public some time but whatever. Here's hoping I'm with the new girl friend who treats me way better by the way and she's the old ex that is is jealous. Like the saying goes for a lot of these stories here on yahoo answers, in the dear Abby columns etc. you don't know what you had till it's gone. Her loss really not mine. Yeah the kid made it harder to go but sheesh that girl the mother that is the ex for me seriously needs her head examined.

Sooner or later life is going to pass you by and you'll realise how much time you put into something that isn't your responsibility. You may feel guilt towards the sadness of her life but you have to be positively selfish and be there for her but stop worrying. Only she can change her life. I live in poor housing my family don't have a car and i share a room with my two younger siblings. I don't have children no but im making the most of what i have , i am not dwelling in misery and making others dwell in my misery. She has to get up out of the rut. I wish her luck i really do but she has to be positive otherwise nothing will ever change.

You need to take a break from her during the christmas holidays.

and regain your self and your life. If she's treating you like that prayers,

that every thing gets better now i'm not saying that you should get back with her again.

if she failed out of collage and she's living on a free ride scholarship1

and only one car works to get her around and her brother takes places.

not you shouldn't kiss the ground she walks on. she sounds like she needs.

to get her life together not sounding mean because i don't know you or her.

i'm just trying help you out. and your still love her as a boy friend. then.

if this is based on looks then your heart is hurting and give your heart time to heal.

if this dosen't help e-mail me at graciesaunt24@yahoo.com hope you have a Very merry Christmas

and a blessed new years.

You both just agreed to break up, so that says a lot.

It look like now, you have all the chores and responsibilities of a friendship without the fun or romance.

That sounds more like work than fun.

It sounds like she likes you less than you like her, so she will want you around to help her ,but she ain't never gonna love you the way you want.

My advice is to continue to be her friend if you want and help her when you can , but not to the point where your life becomes unmanageable.

I wouldn't give up on meeting Mrs. Right, but I'd look for someone who is CRAZY about you just as you ARE, even if you aren't totally satisfied with every aspect of her, as long as you love her.

Don't go for looks as much as personality and you will win in the end Brother.

Of course, it's nice to have someone YOU are attracted to, but does she have to be perfect physically?

Another thing about this ex of your's, she has a daughter, which means you will NEVER be Number One in this lady's life. She has to think about her child.

If you want a challenge, stay with her, but if you'd like some joy, and happiness, keep her at arm's length and stay friends.

who cares about your trouble drama sucks bone em and leave em they are a pain in the a$$ anyway

yeah, sure what the other guy said.