Bad Christmas gift from boyfriend?

Stunning:

They say that in gift giving, it is the thought that counts. Your boyfriend's gift to you showed no thought whatsoever.

When a person gives, s/he should give from the heart, without any hope or desire for something in return. The thought, expense and time that went into your gifts should have no bearing on his gifts to you. If you truly gave him the gifts you did purely to ensure that he had a great Christmas, then feel good about that. You successfully completed your quest.

Now with respect to his gift, you have every right to be disappointed because the two of you setup a great structure for ensuring Christmas happiness for you both. He did not work within the structure.

My advice: discuss your disappointment with him, and be honest about how you feel. After that conversation, let it go and try to enjoy the rest of your holiday with your boyfriend.

A lot of men are just dull headed about such things. I've been married 42 years. If I had a dollar for every birthday, or forgotten anniversary,or mother's day, I could take you on a cruise. Men just never know whehn to shut up. But, you aren't my mother he told me one mother's day. No. You @@#%$&* I'm just the mother of your three children. Geeze. Now my husband isn't good about remembering all that stuff he's supposed to according to Romance Novels and the movies. But, when I had an opportunity for career advancement, he stayed home with the boys for two years to I could accept promotion which included business travel. Last spring I put in a garden, then i hurt my knee and thought I might loose my garden. My husband went and made me some raised beds with little benches to sit on so that I could work around my plants. I have lots of stories of his willingness to jump in when I needed help and support. Only you know whether your boyfriend is a jerk or just romantically retarted. Sometimes you have to tell men what you want: a night out for our aniversary or flowers on my birthday. Treat them well and they'll do what you ask. You are living in the real world not a soap opera. Don't have a fit over someting that's just not all that important in the big scheme of things.

maybe he had been searching for the perfect gift for you but couldnt seem to think of anything that was perfect enough. and after winning the raffle he thought it would do the trick, because he knew that you loved the restaurant and it was something that you could do together. its not about cost, its the thought that counts :) happy holidays.

yeah you should let it go and may mention it in one of those times when your mad at him and start telling all the things that your mad at him for. its not a big deal, maybe it did came from his heart!! he won something in the raffle. people get really excited/happy bout those things and he gave it to you so you should be honored

Well it seems like you guys have ben together for a while. It's the thought that counts (you hear that EVERYWHERE). I'd let it go.

I think you should just let it go. He wanted to please you with something you would like, not come off sounding cheap and inconsiderate.

just tell him how you feel