Bad Christmas gift from boyfriend?

Men just don't get it. If he had kept his mouth shut about winning the gift certificate in a raffle all would be fine and you wouldn't be asking this question. Just let it go and don't expect much from him in future as far as gifts go. He's probably a great guy, but this one little character flaw (and it's not really a flaw, it's just the way he is) will eat at you unless you learn to deal with it early. We all like nice gifts, but not all of us are wired to pick out nice gifts and nothing in the world can change that. Just love him for who he is and some day you'll look back on this gift and get a nice little chuckle out of the memory.

A lot of men are just dull headed about such things. I've been married 42 years. If I had a dollar for every birthday, or forgotten anniversary,or mother's day, I could take you on a cruise. Men just never know whehn to shut up. But, you aren't my mother he told me one mother's day. No. You @@#%$&* I'm just the mother of your three children. Geeze.

Now my husband isn't good about remembering all that stuff he's supposed to according to Romance Novels and the movies. But, when I had an opportunity for career advancement, he stayed home with the boys for two years to I could accept promotion which included business travel.

Last spring I put in a garden, then i hurt my knee and thought I might loose my garden. My husband went and made me some raised beds with little benches to sit on so that I could work around my plants.

I have lots of stories of his willingness to jump in when I needed help and support.

Only you know whether your boyfriend is a jerk or just romantically retarted. Sometimes you have to tell men what you want: a night out for our aniversary or flowers on my birthday. Treat them well and they'll do what you ask. You are living in the real world not a soap opera. Don't have a fit over someting that's just not all that important in the big scheme of things.

Yes, let it go. It doesn't really matter how he got the certificate, but that he thought of you and gave it to you. He shouldn't have told you how he got it, though, sometimes guys don't think before they speak. But maybe he even entered the raffle with the intention of winning that prize for you.

It doesn't matter how much a present cost; it only matters that he wanted to give you something that you'd enjoy.

It depends on his personality and history of gifts. If he has always gone cheap then bring this up (or rather mention where you got the gifts and say they were on sale for blah blah blah, even if they really weren't) That would make him feel bad most likely and want to improve. If he didn't mean it and has given you great gifts before, then let it go :) you don't want to hurt his feelings right? Good luck

It's the thought that counts. To him it might be huge, to you apparently his thought is nothing...no matter how big or small.

At least its to your favorite restaurant...enjoy the dinner and who knows this could be something you laugh about on your 50th wedding anniversary.

Just don't forget the real reason for the season.

I love my wife deeply and with all my heart. I am not a planner though. She spoiles me and gets me things she knows I'll love. I try to do the same but I fail. Its just like that....I'm sorry. We suck at gifts.

If it makes you happy, then don't worry about it. I think he's lucky to have been able to get you something that means a lot for very little/luck-of-the-draw.

Don't feel bad! Go get dinner!

Tonight have a dream about it, it will be the answer.