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My boyfriend wont spend Christmas with me, I'm alone.?
Today is Christmas and my family lives hundreds of miles from me. Due to my job I cannot travel this year. My boyfriend of 4 months knows I am all alone today, but is spending it with his parents. I figured he would at least see me later in the evening after his festivities, but instead wants to see me tomorrow. I don't understand this. My feelings are hurt, and I am thinking of dumping him. If it was him in my shoes, I would have not allowed him to spend Christmas alone. I would have invited him over or went to see him after my family time. What should I do?
13 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Awww, honey I feel you.
My fiance isn't with me this Christmas either, but that's because he lives an hour away from me on Train and of course, trains don't run, and no one is willing to drop him down.
Have you considered other difficulties that might stop him coming to you? I'm sure it's not an on thing purpose. Talk to him about it. How old is he? Is it imperative that he stay with his parents?
Ask him that before you make you're choice.
Merry Christmas xxx
- ?Lv 45 years ago
It must have taken a lot of courage and strength to break up with him. And it sounds like you have handled things well. But you are right, you need to be happy and being with him doesn't make you happy. So don't feel sorry for him, he has 'made his own bed' and now he has to lay in it. Don't be with him at Christmas time because that's what 'he wants'... Because that's not what you want! If you have to ignore him for this to happen then that's what you'll have to do. You have been more than nice about this, and now it's his turn to realise what he's lost and for you both to move on. Good luck
- nozychickLv 41 decade ago
i don't really want to tell you to dump him because i don't know his side of the story.but at the same time, why didn't he invite you by? could it be, he might be spending christmas with someone else and he's just saying he's with his family? i'm not trying to put ideas in your head, but he should at least call you and not for no hot minute. he should be talking to you for an hour and a half letting you know how much he cant wait to see you tomorrow. don't jump to any conclusions cause he wont come see you today. maybe his family is an all out work out but i would pay attention to a lot more details in the upcoming week and weeks to come on how he handles the quality time in the relationship, especially around new years eve. if he don't spend it with you something's wrong. and also he might be pulling your leg-- he may show up later and surprise you.
- 1 decade ago
Well you shouldn't be thinking about dumping him over something like this, of course you're hurt but you should remember that he has his own family that he may not be able to see or talk with very often. Maybe you can tell him how you feel about this and you guys can work something out next year! Merry Christmas and don't feel so down!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I think you are just feeling the Christmas blues lol Hey get off that couch and do something. rent some movies bake or buy some cookies and ice cream. Turn up some music and have some alone fun time.. Maybe you can go on a personal christmas shopping :) Don't rush into something like breaking up with your bf because of this one day. Cheer up, you'l see him tomorrow :)
- SoCalGuyLv 51 decade ago
He obviously has something go on. But If I had a girlfriend and I knew she was going to be alone, I would have invited her over to be with my family and if my family hadn't met her, they would have gotten the chance to get to know her. I would be proud to be with my girlfriend no matter where I was with her.
It's not like you two are hundreds of miles away from eachother so an excuse like he's too busy or too far from you doesn't cut it in this case.
Worse case would be he would go over late and see you. But he's not even attempting to do that. He should respect your feelings and make an effort, especially on a day like Christmas, to be with you.
You should talk to him about this. I think breaking up would be too drastic. All the details about why he's doing this isn't known. Make an attempt to discuss this with him.
- sometimeswrongLv 61 decade ago
Your just feeling sad now. He probably had a very good reason for doing what he did. Just be cool and enjoy tomorrow with him. You will probably have a good time. Good luck and Merry Christmas
- 1 decade ago
let him have some family time, you've only been dating for four months, yeah, he should have invited you over, but he didn't, just tell him how sad you were tomorrow, maybe he'll see he was in the wrong and take you out or something.
- 1 decade ago
This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone.
May you and your whole entire family have a very safe and merry Christmas!
- 1 decade ago
Well. I think that it was rude of him not to invite you over or to see you afterwards. Thats just me. I understand he has his family and they are more important. But leaving you alone like that is just rude!. I don't think you should automatically break up with him. But ask him why he didn't invite you over and maybe re- evaluate your relationship with him.