My girlfriend has guy friends come over to her house when im not their...?

I only have friends that are guys and to be honest whenever my bf would get upset over things he would see as "inappropriate", I would compromise with him. No more boys over at my house. Then that became No more hanging out by yourself with a boy, and then that became No more hanging out with a boy without me.

What you're asking for is not one of those requests that fixes everything, you'll request more and more in the sake of compromise and comfort, when really what you're asking is for her to stop inviting her friends to her house.

If she's a tom boy she doesn't view them as male or female regardless of what they see. She just views them as friends.

That's how I was too, but of all the compromises I made with my boyfriend, I have no friends now, and him being a boyfriend even if he does treat me well and with respect (he doesn't insult me, he's not mean, he's polite, etc.) I don't think he knew that by asking me to compromise and it ending in me not hanging out with my friends anymore, that he really ensured that all I have is him to go to for emotional needs. That would be nice if a boyfriend could handle all emotional needs, but I don't think any boyfriend should undertake that responsibility. That is for friends, because it's just too much on a boyfriend's plate.

Anyway, so I can say after all of my compromises lately, I still have guy friends but we're not as close as before. I can't call them all the time because it seems 'weird', I can't hang out at their houses all the time like I did before because it seems 'sketchy', so I've been rather lonely lately. Infact it kind of sucks.

I think you should lay off, if she wanted a relationship with them, she would be dating them, but she's dating you. I can see why you're a little nervous because yes some of them may think that they're getting somewhere with her, just like every guy has that one friend who's a girl that thinks if they kiss enough *** it will get them somewhere. Nothing comes out of it.

First of all, the word is "there." "There" is a place. "Their" means "belonging to them," ok?

Second of all, Xo is absolutely right. There are things in a relationship built on compromise, but friendship is not one of them. You don't get to tell her what she can do with her friends, and there is no compromise with a controller like you. You'll just keep narrowing her freedom until nothing is left. This is because the problem is not that she has her friends over; the problem is your insecurity issues.

Since the problem is not her friends, making her stop seeing them will do nothing at all to address it. That is why it will never be enough for you. If you want to address this problem, you need to recognize that it is you who has the problem, not her. The solution is to grow a pair and realize that love is giving, not taking away. What you should be feeling is happiness that she is having a good time with people who care about her, and her happiness should be making you happy. You should be *encouraging* her to do things that make her happy, and instead you are controlling her. Ask yourself why. What is it that makes you insecure and generates these feelings of jealousy? Figure *that* out and you will be well on your way to having a happy relationship.