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Why cant i let go and learn to live and let live?

i did what society told me to do, i grew up, married, had kids, helped them learn and grow. i am now 50, my dad passed 5 years ago, it took care of my mom for 5 years, she passed this last january (3 days after my 50th bday) at home with me. my kids are moving on to college. why cant i let go and be happy that its over? living for others for 50 years, its my turn, god its my turn. i have been out to the kids for 15 years, ever since thier mom left. i dont know what to do. any suggestions would be appreciated.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It's never time to live JUST FOR YOU, but I think as the good person you've been, you know that deep inside. However, you should pick up a hobby to fill up YOUR time. Make time for yourself and relax doing something you enjoy. Learn to forget the world for a while.

  • 1 decade ago

    Some people are just meant to live for others. There's nothing wrong with it. After 50 years of doing so, you can't just all of a sudden think solely about you.

    My suggestion, get involved in something that you're passionate about. Maybe do some volunteer work, pick up some new hobbies.

    I work with a 61-year old woman, and she does all sorts things. She works full-time, and has a part-time job, she takes care of her ill husband, she volunteers at her church, and she crochets blankets to donate to various places like animal shelters and friends who have babies on the way. And she is one of the happiest people I know.

    No one really likes change, it's tough to get over the loss of your parents, and your kids growing up. All the fulfillment you got out of helping others just needs to be acquired elsewhere.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    So you've done a good job. Pat yourself on the back. Keep on going with your life's new directions. If you are in a relationship you can start making fun plans with your partner. If you are single you can start making plans for yourself. If you want a partner and don't have one, well, there's an obvious new direction for you right there. Think it out but also be ready to take a leap of faith.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

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  • Elle
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I am now so glad I'm young and that I will never marry, be a mother or a housewife. F*ck that.

    So betting I'm going to get reported or thumb downs right now.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I suggest a psychologist to help you honestly.good luck

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