Don't know what to do?

You are not unhappy enough. That is the problem, you still have some hope for the relationship or other (unrecognised?) incentives to stay.

Only way to find out is to ask him. He may be as unhappy as you. You don't have to physically separate if you both agree to live separate lives including separate romantic lives while sharing the family home.

If you feel repulsed, humilated and lonely, it will eventually turn to hate. Don't allow that to happen or your life to slip away. Ask him today how he feels and what he wants to do.

Edited to add***

With the additional information there is another course of action left to you. Tell him you are going to live a single life and do it. Go out, get a new partner, live your life. Put the ball in his court. If he is happy with the new situation he will stay and hopefully do the same, if not HE will HAVE to discuss the issues and help you to arrive at a better solution. Not the best way forward, but it is a WAY forward.

I think that counseling is a good option, because then you would be able to express how you're feeling and there might be a possibility (if you two work hard on these barriers) that you two could regain the closeness you had before.

If counseling is out of the question then it sounds like you two should just separate. You can find someone that gives you what you need and want, someone compassionate and loving. You don't want to keep putting this off until you are too old to divorce, do it while you're still able to handle the stress of dating.

i know that this is a hard answer, but iv'e been there & done that. the truth is that there is no "marriage" anymore. the least you can do is ask for a seporation, maybe it will make him see the the importance of what's going on. next, you only live once, so why live it if you are never happy. there is a time & a place when you have to say enuff is enuff. if you are not happy, then change your life, it's your decision, not anyone else's. you have to make yourself happy, single or not, so just be strong, think straight, & do what you have to do. good luck!!!

I understand your situation totally, only difference between you and me is I'm going on 22 years in my marriage! If I figure out what to do you will be the first to know! I can't talk a lot right now if you want to email me and we can talk and between the two of us come up with some type of relief for us both. I have to go for now but like I said email me and we will talk.

God Bless,

Carol

im have no idea what you may be feeling me being a guy in my 20s. but for the sake of advice, why not reminisce what started your relationship together, how it evolved into marriage and how you really want it to be. i dont have the perfect pair of parents, there are times that they would fight and they rarely show affection... In my personal opinion, communication always works. (yes its a cliche) you two are married, you should be able to talk to each other. i hope this helps a lot. best of luck. :)

why do you sleep apart from your husband? why not ask him if he's gay ? if you feel he won't tell you the truth then the next step is decide what do you want to do?if your with him because you can't support your self alone then get a job. if i was in your shoes i'd be having some affairs, don't be lonely get a life

GOOD LORD JUST LEAVE.... call your family and get them off the illusion that all is well ... if your life is sooo terrible then you will find a way to make it on your own.. best of luck

You both need professional counselling

17 years what a wonderful blessing. Give you advice...here it is...Pray

mmmm just replace him with another man is your happines right you have to do what makes you happy