Sexual question for people in a relationship married or not for over 6 years.?

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years living together almost six. My issue is this. He expects a lot of oral. More than anyone I've ever been with. I don't mind doing that but he thinks it should be done daily. I think he's crazy. I do please him in that regard 2-maybe 4 times a week. I may not finish him off every time but that's because we end up having sex. Sometimes he gets moody about it. I've never been with someone fixated on getting oral. I love him and will do it most the time doesn't bother me, I enjoy it,  but I think he should be more appreciative. He seems to think that after 7 years all women out there continue to perform oral 4-5 nights a week. I tell him he's crazy and he should be happy after seven years he still gets oral at least 2x a week. Who is right?  I don't know why he seems to think that after 7 years of being together a woman is still going to do that every night of the week. He gets frustrated and will make a rude comment occasionally about other women doing it that often and I think he's full of crap. I'd like to see how often he got a bj if we broke up. I tell him that but he doesn't get it.
So men or women how often do you do that or get that after being with someone for over 6 years.

? · Accepted Answer

It isn't about how often, it is about mutual respect. Anything that is obsessive is not normal and this sounds very obsessive. He apparently doesn't respect you as a partner. Try couples counseling but don't give in when you don't want to as you will lose your self respect.

The Devil · Answer

First of all, if he thinks that most women perform oral 4-5 nights a week, he is plumb crazy cause it just ain't so. Second if he only wants you to give him oral as foreplay for a short spell and then have intercourse, I don't think you should have a problem doing that every night (or however often the 2 of you have sex) However; to expect a full bj 6-7 nights a week is just plain stupid and believe me, if I had a woman who would perform oral on me 2-4 times a week I would be ecstatic and I would want to be by her side 4-EVA whether she finished me off that way or with regular sex. His problem is he doesn't realize how good he's got it and he thinks the grass is greener......

? · Answer

My husband and I have been together for eight years, married for seven. My husband gets oral once in a blue moon. I can not stand to do it. It make me gag! Your boyfriend is a lucky man to be getting it weekly especially a few times a week. Demand he gives you oral daily and see how "willing" he is to do so. If he gets "frustrated" when you refuse, that is kind of immature. I don't know any girls really, that like to give oral. Let alone daily. So yes you are right he is a lucky man and should be thankful for what he gets.

StyleN · Answer

Your man is one very lucky guy!  Been with my wife for 7 yrs. and I'll get oral every couple of weeks or so if even that.  Your guy is just being greedy.  Does he return the favor, I'm guessing no...At least you can finish him off, I think that has happend maybe twice for me via oral.  If he keeps being rude / pushy about it knock it off for awhile and then he will realize what a good thing he has IMHO.

GL

Anonymous · Answer

There's an old saying: "why is the bride smiling?"- answer: "Because she knows that she'll never have to give another BJ again!"

Seriously, your BF expects too much. He's very wrong about the frequency of oral after even one year. Is he kidding?

vampyre4blood · Answer

it depends on the woman my ex-wife didnt like doing it at all even before we got married and after it was 1-2 times a week.  but my ex gf after 5yrs would wake me up every day that way.  so it depends on the girl.  if you only want to do it 2-3 times a week then he either needs to appriciate you for it.   or you can tell him hookers do it everyday and if thats what he wants you to be then start paying you lol

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