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My Scorpio man still has photo albums of his cheating ex. Why?

My boyfriend's first girlfriend cheated on him, and as this was 10 years ago and he has dated others since, I don't understand why he'd keep these photos? He keeps saying our relationship is amazing and he never felt this way, but refuses to talk of those photos even though they are in a drawer right next to him in his desk. Why is he keeping them? I thought the Scorpio mentality was to never go back on a cheater but I'm scared he still feels for her. How should I approach him about this topic?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    How should you approach a Scorpio? Head on and all out. If you ask him straight everything you have asked here he will answer your questions. It could be that he threw the pictures in the drawer and forgot about them. Or, it could be he keeps them handy to reminisce with and pine over. Don't pussyfoot around with a Scorpio. Beleive me, if he still had any hopes for the relationship with his ex he would be trying to get her back, whatever it took. Even if he still loves her, which he just might, if she cheated on him it is unlikely that he wants her back, no matter how much he loved her. He is with you now, and all that is in the past no matter how many pictures he keeps in his desk drawer.

    I had a photo album of my first wedding ceremony and my second husband asked me why I kept them. I really had no idea, they were just part of my "stuff" that moved with me. Since it bugged him I threw them out without a moments hesitation. Perhaps your Scorp guy will do the same.

  • 1 decade ago

    I have experienced this before with a Cancerian, which is not unusual (Cancerians tend to have difficulty letting go of the past; in my case my partner's ex was an abuser and he STILL couldn't let go very easily)! With Scorpio, I've got to say that I find it a little odd as they tend not to forgive - does he have any Cancer in his chart?

    Anyway, a lot of people do this which I find clingy and stalker-ish (especially after ten years). I personally have always thrown out things when I've split up with someone (like straight away), so I don't understand what people gain from resisting clean separation. Fact of it is though, lots of people do it, so you're not alone.

    It is however, inconsiderate, especially as he's with someone new (you). How long have you been together? I think you have a right to ask why he feels a need to keep them, and to express that it makes you feel uncomfortable that he's so desperate to cling to the memory of some other woman. Men tend to be a little slow about these things.

    In my opinion, I would let this guy slide. I have been through this and it's very painful - even if you do push past it, it scars deep.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Depends on the guy himself. The guy I'm with, who happens to be Scorpio, has once admitted to cheating on a partner back in the past (spoiling this other girl, taking her out to dinner... that sort of thing). But he's intensely loyal, and I can trust him. My step-father, on the other hand, has been cheating on my mother for the past 8 years. He isn't quite mature, I suppose, and really believed that my mother was cheating on him. Therefore, he thought he could get revenge back and cheat on her. His heart was terribly broken though, and so was hers. I don't think they'll cheat willingly, because most Scorpios I know of are really loyal and hopeless romantics. But if they get their hearts hurt, then they might...

  • 1 decade ago

    Okay well straight up ask him. Don't pussy foot around the subject, ask him and also tell him how it makes you feel. As much as being betrayed hurts i'd never keep anything reminding me of my POS cheating ex, i know some ppl do, but 10 years is wayyyyyyyyy excessive. Srry to say but i do think he is prolly still hung up on her, which isn't healthy for him. He should man up and get rid of the pic's or i think (if it were me), get rid of him

    Source(s): Scorpio chick
  • 1 decade ago

    What happened to just ole 'sentimental stuff'?

    I have every picture i ever took and/or was given to me from the last 30 years.....even the exboyfriends...no feelings anymore...just 'memories'.

    Some people just like holding on to stuff. We are not packrats.

    Thats the way we are.

    Source(s): Me, Miss Pisces.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would never do that. Once me and someone are over I never look back

    So i don't think its a Scorpio thing..maybe he still has feelings for her.

    Source(s): Scorpio gal
  • 1 decade ago

    He's with you, isn't he? There are many possible reasons:

    * a reminder of bad decisions

    * regrets of the relationship

    * she is associated with good experiences

    * a voodoo doll

    * a complete record of his life

    Forget it. Don't worry about it unless it does become a problem.

    Source(s): a Scorpio who keep all his old photos
  • 1 decade ago

    omg seriously, theres something wrong about him! either that or he just doesnt care, maybe forgot he even had them.... tell him to throw them out if its a problem!? If he refuses there must be something wrong

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he has given up on life to go after her and kill

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    For him to **** to silly.

    Source(s): My facetious brain
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