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Recently I caught my boyfriend of 2 years, out on a few big lies and we had a huge argument - it was about money, moving in together and taking our relationship to the next step. He has been sorry since and trying get back into my good books, but now I'm starting to find more and more flaws. Yes, I admit I'm still disgruntled!

I'm usually a skittish person so honesty and trust is the top of my books, and even though I am not perfect, I have always been honest with him.

I feel like I can no longer see him as the same person and I'm starting to look forward to meeting new people and distancing myself to him. Am I falling out of love or should I do something about it?

My boyfriend just bought a new place, and asked me to move in. In the beginning, he said I only had to pay the occasional bill and groceries, but a few months later when we sat down to seriously talk about it, he tells me he has decided to split all bills and groceries equally and that its only fair he is entitled to rent money from me as he has a mortgage.

As much as I love him, the new house is 2 hours away from my work and the area is so new that there is no public transport which means I would have to buy a car.

We are struggling to agree - the rental price he asking for and won’t budge on maybe what is standard price in his area, but I cannot afford that as well as buy a car (I current rent in downtown and pay 1/3 more what he wants, but don't need a car). What should we do? Where to compromise?

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 1 year, and I thought things were great until he upfront told me that he felt I didn't offer enough to pay on dates. This then blew out of proportion when I mentioned big ticket items like how I'd footed tickets for birthdays and chipped in for little things like groceries. He started comparing me to other girls he had dated and made mention of how it was great they made offers every now and again.

I guess I had started offering at first, then got comfortable and paid for random things rather then actual dates; I always assumed I was gradually making more and more effort, but it doesn't seem like it.

I'm feeling humiliated and confused. Is it reflecting my character or was it all done in bad taste? What should I do now?

My boyfriend's first girlfriend cheated on him, and as this was 10 years ago and he has dated others since, I don't understand why he'd keep these photos? He keeps saying our relationship is amazing and he never felt this way, but refuses to talk of those photos even though they are in a drawer right next to him in his desk. Why is he keeping them? I thought the Scorpio mentality was to never go back on a cheater but I'm scared he still feels for her. How should I approach him about this topic?

I'm going to be my best friend's maid of honor. However, as the groom has no close friends, the bride-to-be is asking her bridemaids' boyfriends to stand in as groomsmen.

When she suggested my new boyfriend be the best man, I was taken back. I find this a little strange and unpredictable as circumstances change. Its nothing to do with my relationship (I'd love to be paired up with my man on the day, and not some stranger), but considering its such a big event, I would think you'd want a reliable source like a family friend or relative.

What do you think? Should I ask the boyfriend to do this role, or tell my best friend its not a good idea?

I'm going to be my best friend's maid of honor. However, as the groom has no close friends, the bride-to-be is asking her bridemaids' boyfriends to stand in as groomsmen.

When she suggested my new boyfriend be the best man, I was taken back. I find this a little strange and unpredictable as circumstances change. Its nothing to do with my relationship (I'd love to be paired up with my man on the day, and not some stranger), but considering its such a big event, I would think you'd want a reliable source like a family friend or relative.

What do you think? Should I ask the boyfriend to do this role, or tell my best friend its not a good idea?

My ex broke up with me but we got back together a few times. After 2 years I had a clear mind about what I want and the on and off has taken its toll on me.

I made it distinctly clear that I want to be just friends but he still calls me all these endearing nicknames and everyone we both know, he makes it sound like we're still together. Most of our friends are mutual so it makes it all the harder.

I'm not horrible enough to show him I'm dating other people but its getting frustrating that he's not moving on when he initiated the breakup! I love him but can't be more then friends. What should I do?

My first long-term boyfriend left for overseas after 4 years. So by 5th year, we broke up.

The next guy I started dating left for UK after half a year. That I didn't mind as i wasn't really into him.

Then I met someone while on a holiday and we dated for a few weeks... I go back there every 2 years but its not enough to sustain a relationship. And I really really see a potential long-term relationship in this one!

Its frustrating. I'm reaching my 30s and my options feel so limited.

Should I make an attempt to stay overseas for my latest love interest?

My boyfriend cheated on me while overseas and we broke up. Then I hear from my friends about their dating horror stories and how they're men have been unfaithful.

It makes me think - I use to have such high morals, never slept with another else other then the man I was faithful to, now I feel I should play it at their game and considering you can only find out one way if you're physically compatible, should I start doing this instead of wondering?

I seriously thought that I had left the high school clique-ish attitude behind, but I'm still seeing it years later.

I went to a party that a old friend openly invited others to. We're almost in our 30s yet I can still spot the "cool" women banding together and gossiping about everyone at the event. My friend seemed to gradually stop talking to everyone else and mingling; that little group even made their exit together, saying bye to no one but the host.

Is this behaviour in women in particular? I have many male friends and never see this kind of attitude in them.

I’m usually not a worrywart kind of person but I just got a verbal offer for my dream job. I was talking to the manager and asking questions but after half an hour of questioning, some which he repeated answers for and others I was just wondering about, he got flustered and started sounding very abrupt about sending the paperwork before hanging up.

This guy isn’t my direct manager so I don’t care if I never talk to him again, but he is a decision maker to the final outcome and I am not sure if this will affect me chances.

Should I call or email him back to explain or apologize?

I have interviews all throughout the following week and have been informed that second rounds are all programming tests. This one will be for SQL.

What do you expect from such interviews? Do they test you verbally? Make you do written exams?

I've been dating a guy for 6 years before he broke up with me to go work overseas.

However every few months when he returns for visits, he still wants to get together and act like a couple, yet I know he has been seeing other girls overseas.

Once he said he wanted me to go overseas and live with him but then backed out when I said yes. My heart breaks everytime we meet up then he leaves again, yet he says he is still young and can't commit.

What should I do?

I need a wine that goes with a dessert that has very strong berries taste (mousse cake). The dessert is very sweet so maybe something light.

Any recs?

In the past few weeks I have done some unspoken social wrongs which I’ve apologised and tried to make up for (spoken more to their friends then them, haven’t made an effort to catch up), and now when I speak to these people, they usually ignore me. In the past some of them have wronged me as well but I’ve always been forgiving and courteous.

Now it’s making me feeling low and I keep waking up in the middle of the night thinking about it. I know I can’t go back in time to fix this, or that they may always badmouth me/ think poorly of me but I just can’t help feeling insecure like I’ve made enemies or there will always be people out there bad-mouthing me.

I’m thinking it’s just an emotional attitude I should get over. Any advice?

I know people who are going overseas or interstate to work/study/travel, in order to get away from a situation back home such as family issues, relationship problems or believing this will change them.

Have you? Where? Did it work? Please share your experiences.

I know people who are going overseas or interstate to work/study/travel, in order to get away from a situation back home such as family issues, relationship problems or believing this will change them.

Have you? Why? Did it work? Please share your experiences.

My friend invited me to a party and said she'd introduce me to some guy friends of her's as I just broke up with an ex (dated 2-3 months).

However I just found out that the ex's friends will be at the same party. I want to have fun and meet people, but not appear desperate and heartlessly, picking up other guys.

What would you do in such a situation?

I’m having a difficult time coping afterwards with things I always seem to do wrong in social situations.

Little things like forgetting to say bye to someone (and them making note of it afterwards) or talking way longer to one group then another (so that they all ignore me afterwards) has me thinking about it for days and feeling negative. Even when I attempt to right the wrong, people aren’t so nice and that makes me feel worse.

I know I can't please everyone but even weeks later, I think back and cringe and think what-ifs. How do I get over caring about what others think, and moving on?