Hopeless romantic Here. Dear members of yahoo answers, can you give me advice?

But you have already given up an impossible task. "I lack the initiative, and will to break out of it."

Any suggestion I can give is going to get smacked down my you. Until you decide to stop the circle of despair, we can help

Everyone encounters these feelings at some point in their lives. Your mention of college suggests that you are in your early 20's, and my experience has been that early adulthood can be a difficult transition for some folks, it certainly was for me.

The first answerer gave you a sage piece of advice in that you have to love yourself. When I was 20 or so, I used to dismiss such a suggestion as bunk. Now, 29 years later, I see the wisdom of such advice. To love yourself means to be comfortable when you are around people or not. It's not a simple matter of saying to yourself that you love yourself, you need to actually FEEL that way without being aware of it.

You gotta find a way to deal with what makes you feel the way you do. But that takes time and experiences, some of which are difficult, like now. That isn't bad either because we grow more from difficulty and struggles and are better for it. It may not feel that way but trust me when I say that I'm a better man today for some truly difficult events that I had to endure.

The first thing I would suggest is to mind some of the words you use. Ask yourself, in the overall scheme of things, is your situation really dire, or is it merely a way that you're feeling for the time being? In other words, that exercise should help you develop ways of seeing what you have going for you. Separate the real from the felt. That will be hard at first because your entire mood may be dependent on one thing that you are unhappy about - which is that you aren't in a friendship with a woman right now.

There's not a thing in the world wrong with wanting such a thing. However, I suggest that you don't approach women with that as a goal. If there is one thing I've learned it's that such relationships need time to develop and can't be forced. So, the relationships you have at this time (be it acquaintances, familiarities, friends, etc.) could be where they need to be for now.

You need to find a way to get your mind away from how you are feeling right now. Try to relax yourself when you go out in public. When I'm anywhere I can make conversation with anyone because - in part - I've learned not to overwhelm myself with expectations or outcomes. Just try to be yourself and work at it. Besides, if you feel lonely, that's normal. We all feel lonely at times.

You'll be okay, and have a happy and safe new year.

NOTE: I edited this after initial posting.

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You gotta just ask the person you like/are attracted to out for dinner or a movie or something. It doesn't matter if you want to date them or just hang out with them, the only way it's gonna happen is if you take initiative and ask. Or ask them to study w/u if you want to take baby steps.

you should join a group such as a reading club or church, it should be something you are interested in...you will meet people that are interested in the same things you are interested in...this will give you something to talk to girls about as they get to know you, you will be more at ease asking one out to coffee...good luck...

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You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you...just think about that.