My ex is getting married tomorrow, but I believe he still loves me and I love him. What Should I do?

Wow! You two have your priorities and hearts totally messed up here.

It sounds to me like he's so lonely he'll take anything. You, on the other hand, do not need him in your life, but he needs someone in his. Therefore he settled.

At this stage, its none of your business. Think of the other girl involved in this. She thinks she's getting married to a man who loves her. So why ruin her wedding day. Its entirely possible that he loves her and you, and wanted to give you every possible chance before making his decision to get married.

Once you two separated and so on, he was free to date and apparently he did. See, its that easy.

Move on.

First I would like to comment your wanting to have a child and your boyfriend not agreeing.

I have asked a lot of men questions pertaining to having children: I feel most mature intelligent men want to be included in this decision - a woman should not become pregnant unless she and the potential father have discussed and agreed that if this happens what will follow.

Your boyfriend had the right to not have children. However, I understand how you must have felt - you were hurt and you reacted to this hurt! This man might not have told you he was hurt because most males are socialized not to reveal their emotions - it's a sign of weakness.

He is getting married and you should not see him even as a friend. I suspect if he loves you, his marriage won't work - if you truly love each other time will reunite you. In the mean time do and go just as you would have - this way you will have sacrifice nothing if you wait or decide not to.

Next time communicate all decisions that a couple should make when in a relationship. You sound very intelligent and know where your priorities are - you are hurt and that's normal - this emotional pain will go away.

Don't do anything, and don't reach out to him again. Don't go to the wedding. You did the right thing not meeting up with him at the mall, too. This marriage of his has "rebound" written all over it, and IMO it will be a miracle if it lasts for more than a year or two. I feel sorry for his bride to be, since he is evidently a guy who wants to be married more than he wants to be with a particular person, if he so quickly has someone ready to rush to the altar. Women get criticized for this all the time, and rightly so.

Realistically, I don't think that you want him, and I think you need to be honest with yourself about it. I think that your ego is a bit bruised and your head is spinning, that he was chasing you so diligently, and then he just suddenly out of the blue decided to get THAT serious about someone else. I think that you correctly suspect that he just engineered this wedding to make you jealous and to get a rise out of you. The fact that he texted you the instant he walked out, and a thousand other signs, tells me he still has a thing for you. But shame on him, that is no way to treat his bride, and that tells you that he is not really the guy for you, because anyone who is capable of doing this has a childish nutzoid streak a mile wide. I know that you still hurt a bit - but be happy that you dodged a bullet. You need to be able to take care of yourself and your business, and this guy is not mature enough to be a real partner for you. He never was - and you did the right thing to leave him. He only wants what he can't have, which is why he put on the big show after you left. You want a guy who can be there even when he has you - and that is not this guy. Let him go. What he is doing is a warning sign that you made the right choice. Don't feel bad, sweetie. And do not not not contact him again.

I think he's lying to jolt you back into his life.

Either way, just leave it alone now... But you know this already!

1 is you two broke up twice and the reason it did not work will always be there, I think now that he has moved on is bothering you dearly, and in a lot of ways you wished it were you he is marrying and feel after all you two have been through that it should. It will bother u even more when u hear they have a baby latter on, as it should but sweetie you have to move on and let it go, it hurts and I know it does

we have all been there and found years latter that things turn out better in the long run,

If it is ever meant for you two than it will be again , but do not hold on to him it is not fair to you, you could be missing out on love your self by hanging onto what is not.

It sounds as if you both were not forthcoming about how you both felt about each other. Your attempts to move on resulted in his not wanting a child which caused you to feel rejected. You needed reassurance from him and he did not offer it or did not know what you needed from him. He getting married was a last attempt to see if you even care. Even so, your concern should be over the fact that he was willing to have you move in with him without the commitment of marriage on how fast he offered a marital commitment to someone else. This relationship does not sound like a stable one. It sounds as if you both lack the trust to open up and communicate your deepest feelings to one another. Why not give it one last shot and call him and let him know how you feel. If he does not return the feelings then at least you will find closure. Good luck to you!

Instead of making a decision, you strung him along. You made promises that you didn't keep, so of course he's going to give up and move on. I do wonder how long he's had this fiance tucked away in the background, but once he realised that you and he were over for good, he decided to go ahead and marry.

it sounds like a mess you guys ran from. you didn't finish this business with the miscarriage.

yes maybe he does still love you. but he is making a choice. perhaps in the eye of someone with logic this is a bad choice he is making but he is making his choice.

you don't have to understand him. why he asked you to move in with him then get married in the same month - this may be a mystery to all of us including you. let it go. accept that you may never know.

what you should do? what do you want to do? what is it you seek? it sounds like you made a choice and now you regret it. be strong. perhaps it is something else you must fix before you go assuming it is your relationship with him. if you feel it is him you want then let him know. don't stop. but realize he made a choice. how about respecting it. what if you get him back and get him back? you gunna feel safe knowing he was gunna marry someone else? think before you make a decision.

He's moved on, and so ought you.

Do the holorable thing... and allow the man to build his life without you in it.

If you were his future wife, would you want you in his life?

No.

Then do as you would wish if you were in her shoes.

Honor, hon, honor.

It makes one's life so much easier, simpler, and respectful of the vows of a marriage.

He moved on you should too. He got you hook line and sinker. Think, Why would keep on telling you that he loves you and wants to get back together when in the back there is a back-up plan? He might be two timing you even before you two broke up and you were the 2nd fiddle but too good to let go.

You were the one who left first so as a man, he wants to reconquer what he has lost. It's mostly pride. LET HIM GO IT WILL BE GOOD FOR YOU AND STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!!!