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I'm 24 F and work for a newspaper ,a got a acquaintance a job were I work and we quickly became friends however that was short lived as soon as I decided she wasn't a good person to be hanging out with because (she is physically violent(abuses her bf,hardcore abuse) ,belittles her friends and family,tried to kill a pregnant girl cause she thought I was becoming best friends with her and ect.,offered to sleep with my bf "to quote"test him,too see if he would do it",she also would bad mouth my bf cause she said she needed and deserved more of my time then him,every time we went somewhere so would call every girl a slut...and much much more).....yeah so I tried to separate myself from her, and said that I didn't want to hang out with someone that didn't except me for who I am.....and she started stalking me and calling me non- stop..I did answer her calls and told her that we can still be friends and cared about each other just that I couldn't hangout with her anymore if she was going to belittle me all the time cause I didn't want to get a complex ... then she got mad and spread rumors and lies all over the office about me...so yeah now I can't avoid her I see her all the time and I'm cool with her when she is in a okay mood....but every 5 sec she is **** talking about everyone behind their backs and telling me what to say and belittling me ,or telling me if my goofy and having fun that I need to shut up that I have enough attention for the day...and now I feel tortured.. and I was a punk/artsy fartsy and I was always the one in school that stuck up and defended kids that got bullied,I was lucky enough that I never got bullied hardcore in school,well there were moments but it didn't bother me cause I didn't think much of kids of the kids that did it....besides defending yourself in school is alot easier than at work cause there is alot more to lose....How you I manage this situation should I tell my boss?...there is so much more to this story but its too long. oh yeah and  she was sleeping with a co -worker my bosses friend  yikes what do I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Go to your boss straight away. I've had experiences like that but not in work. Plus, she's just humiliating and embarrasing herself, so she should be ashamed xD

Al · Answer

Tell your boss immediately. Things like this can not be left to go on and more harm will come to you if you don't tell someone. You need to go about this in a tactful manner, behind her back. She sounds like she can be quite dangerous and if you feel endangered do not hesitate to tell/call the police. If further action needs to be taken, take the issue to the court because your case is stronger than hers. I would talk to your lawyer asap about actions that can be taken. Don't feel alone because there are plenty of people who can help. I'm only 16 and fortunately have never been bullied, i'm a pretty small guy so i am always cautious but i won't stand for such agressive behaviour. Tell your boss and take it further if necessary.

Jeanette · Answer

go to your boss asap and tell him everything you just told us. she is not a good person to be working with, she sucks!

Anonymous · Answer

let micheal mayhem and "Bully beatdown"handle her i'm sure he can find a hardcore female that will put her in her place..ha,ha,ha,ha,ha

Anonymous · Answer

woah how the hell has she got a job in the first place!?
im sick of bully's only way to deal with them is play at there game if you come over shy and intimidated by them they will attack you in more ways than one.
so stand up to her and she cant do anything she is just a person who has done bad things perceiving to be evil really she isn't shes just somebody labels a bad person she is nothing but a bully.
get a gang on her im sure nobody likes her or if they do there with her because of fear.

Lefty · Answer

End the friendship

Anonymous · Answer

im not gonna read all that sorry

aceta · Answer

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