My husband hurt my feelings and he's angry at me?

Sounds like he doesnt respect u (or woman, more like it). my husband was the same way when he was drinking, he would hurt my feelings and not care. ever.

since he has quit drinking he makes up for hurting my feelings, although he stilll hurts my feelings. it happends less often and he makes up for it. maybe your husband has a problem, or maybe hes just an ***.

He should not have had an affair no matter what the circumstances. Never let yourself feel guilty about his actions. That said, could you possibly take an early retirement? It obviously bother him much more than he thought it would to have you gone so much. I wouldn't assume he had another affair unless you have some sort of evidence because false assumptions will just cause more problems. If you can't stay home, try buying him something really special the next time you are away or planning a romantic date or night at home when you return. He may feel like he takes a backseat to your career and he needs to feel like you want/need him too! I hope all works out!

My Husband Hurt My Feelings

Man, all I keep thinking is EGG SHELLS.

There has to be a way that you are a little less sensitive and he is a little more understanding, but I don't think he is going to loosen up if he feels like he can't ever just say what's on his mind. I can see his point of view and being frustrated because his wife is overly sensitive and can't just drop something. I can also see how frustrating it is on your side because all you want is an apology, but I don't think you're going to get one.

Me, I let things slide and if it's something big then I just directly look at my husband and say, "I don't know ify ou realized what you just said but it was hurtful and I'd like an apology"... and then I walk away and either he gives one after thinking about ot for a while or he doesn't. But I don't wait for it for days if he doesn't give one. I move on. I show that I can apologize and then he seems to be more willing as well.

Life is too short to argue constantly over tiny things.

If you can convine him to try, I'd suggest counseling. In that environment, it's possible to explain to him how his actions affect you. The counselor should go a long way in showing him how his behavior (or non behavior) affects those around him. The fact that everyone thinks he's wonderful is an age old story. He won't fool a counselor. And maybe you need to have a heart to heart with Mom.

You are holding out for an apology that will never happen. You are making yourself feel bad. He is not doing anything. You have control over your own feelings. You allow him to affect you. Maybe he is tired of being "talked to" all the time. His way of apologizing is talking to you. Some men don't have it in them to admit anything wrong doing. Either you need to find a way to accept it or maybe you should not be married. Stop venting to him. He clearly doesn't want to hear it. Write in a journal or talk to a friend. Only tell him happy things and see if his attitude changes. He treats everyone else nice because these other people aren't dumping on him and expecting help. Your home should be a calm place to be.

Wow, I just want to say that I sure can relate to what you are going through. My husband and I seem to be locked into a similar pattern and I do feel that he hurts my feelings quite frequently and is completely unapologetic afterward. I think you need to do what will make you happy. If that means trying a different approach and being less "sensitive" or summoning up the courage to walk out the door, so be it. You mention the word "game" and perhaps if you can change the way you play, you can change the rules and the game will either end or evolve into something you can live with and you can find happiness with him.

In my situation, we have many years together - not all easy and happy years by the way - and a child, so I want to do everything I can to make things better for our child's sake. I already have put so much effort and energy into my relationship with my husband that I am beginning to feel that I am running out of options. For me, if I toughen up, say nothing about hurt feelings and back off, there is simply no communication between us for long periods of time. He seems genuinely satisfied with this. For a time, I can live with this. But after a while, I feel like there is a distance between us that is then uncomfortable for me and I find it hard to navigate through this state of suspended communication. If I let things slide and forgive him in the moment, I find that he continues to be insensitive over time. This seems like a learned pattern of behavior that is unlikely to change. I admit that I have a hard time with this. Perhaps I am too sensitive, but I find that I need to protect my own feelings. This leads to me distancing myself from him emotionally and we end up living in an emotional void. I am really concerned about this because it cannot be a healthy model for our child! And when I reflect on my feelings and what is behind them, I feel bad and wonder if I am simply wasting my efforts and sacrificing my own happiness - and contributing to creating this confusing and dysfunctional atmosphere for our kid.

If I do or say something that hurts his feelings, I apologize. He has a hard time with apologizing. He doesn't like to listen to me vent about things that bother me. There isn't really room in our relationship for him to listen to anything negative from me, he simply seems to want me to just be happy all the time and that seems to be his idea of a good relationship. I have a hard time acting happy when I am not feeling happy; it feels dishonest and wrong. I also begin to feel claustrophobic, like there is not enough room or space for me to be unhappy or completely honest or just be myself within the boundaries of our relationship. When he needs to vent, I listen to him, witness what he is saying and try to be supportive. This is not reciprocated when I am feeling upset and I end up feeling very frustrated and stressed about this imbalance that I perceive in our relationship. We have tried a brief period of counseling when things were extremely stressful. He wasn't convinced that it was helping and thought we could "do it ourselves." We promised each other we would begin to spend more time talking, having regular date nights, making time for each other. This didn't happen on a regular basis. I think it's time to try counseling again. He is also a "great guy" to people who know him casually. He also does not have any extremely close friends he confides in, rather a collection of casual and business acquaintances.

I don't have answers, just experience with my own situation. I don't expect any magic cures. I also wonder, if I was the man and he was the woman, what suggestions or advice would I be getting?

he's supposed to share your problems, especially if he caused them however--

this man just won't do it.

he has no clue how to help you, so he retreats.

email him and ask him what hes thinking-

sounds silly but what can you do.

It would be great if you could talk to a pastor.

Me and my husband have been married for 5 years come June, we have 2 beautiful children together and 3 all together from previous relationships. He is a very jealous man but will never admit to it because deep down inside I think he knows that he has nothing to be jealous about. A day ago my boss lady gave me a gift, brought me breakfast and took me to lunch to show her appreciation on Secretary Appreciation Day. I came home on my lunch break and told him, what I thought was good news, and I asked him to drop me off at the restaurant where I was to meet my boss. He started asking suspicious questions and making crazy remarks about the situation off top. On the way to drop me off, I was talking to him about other stuff that happened that day and never responded to anything but started saying stuff like "I got to hurry up and get my vehicle fixed (he uses my vehicle) cause I don t even feel right dropping you off at your date", " she want to take you on a date, she should have took you with her" and then he said " she must not be married". I answered his question and then asked him why he asked and he didn t say anything. When we got to the restaurant, I was about to get out of the truck and I turned to kiss him like I always do when he drops me back off at work, but he didn t even look at me, so I said " I can t get a kiss goodbye?" all he said was " alright", so I got out of the truck and he drove off. once I got back to work I texted him and told him how he hurt my feelings, but I never got a response. He has been giving me the silent treatment since and I haven t done a thing, what do I do? This is not the first time something like this has happened.

He sounds like a very manipulative man and an expert at passive-aggressive behavior. I am sorry. I would gather my courage, because great courage will be needed and leave him.