Should step-parents be allowed to physically discipline the biological parent's children or vise versa?

It sounds like you don't like your new step parent giving you spankings.

Is this about step parents or about women?

I think it's all so wrong and ridiculous. I think it's sad how stuck some woman find themselves and it sounds so simple to talk about it on Yahoo but no advice can be given, really. Most of the women I know who ended up in abusive relationships had been abused when they were young. They are more susceptible to abusers and are much more passive.

Me, on the other hand, I would never let a hand be laid on me. I would throw the biggest fit and EVERYONE would know about it so that it would never happen again. I wish all women would develop this mentality, that there is no reason, ever, that we should allow ourselves to be put under such conditions. But it's not always noticeable at first and isn't until they find themselves too far in

as for step parents hitting children, it should never be done. I hate a step mother who tried "disciplining me" and I hated her for it. I didn't see how it was that she could up and waltz into my life at 9 years old and tell me to pull my pants down and get ready for a spanking. I wouldn't have liked it if it was my dad hitting me either but the fact that it was my step mom only made it demeaning

No

I really do not think the step-parent or "move in" should be able to physically dicipline the child. Yes, I can see if it has been a long term thing and the child is comfortable with the step-parent. But I think if the step-parent disciplines the child the same way as the regular parent, the child will grow more and more away from their biological parent, because they think of it as-ohh my mommy or daddy lovesthat person- I think it also causes the step-parent to become big headed or it will cause them to feel like they are the boss in the house, because they discipline a child that ISN'T theirs. So no, it isn't fair. And I dont agree with step-parents physically disciplining their partner's child.

If all of the adults involved are in agreement then discipline is fine. However, physical discipline? Not ok, no matter whether you are the parent or the step. Physical discipline is not necessary.

Neither Adult should use physical discipline. Grounding, time out, restricting privileges should be done by both adults. A married couple must and should present a united front.

Hell no My step mom said she would beat me and my step brother and i wasn't gonna let her hit me, i didn't even know her and she wanted to come beat me i wasn't gonna take that. I don't think you should be letting anyone hit your child.