How long does it take and how do you mend a broken heart?

I'm not sure whether this girl was your first love, or just a serious relationship, but I have been in your shoes.

I dated a guy for about 2 years. He was my first love, not first boyfriend. After being abused verbally,emotionally, and once physically I was at my wits end and decided it was best for me to get out. I'm not gonna lie, it was hard. I mean, I loved this boy more than anything and he was everything I had hoped for. But when he changed, I knew it would never be the same. So, I left. It was about one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I was heartbroken for months, and often cried myself to sleep.

After over a year of being broken up, he is still trying to call and at least be my friend (with benefits) but I won't allow it. I will always have love for him, but as far as being in love and thinking of him that way, I'm done.

Bottom line is, you are young I'm sure. Don't let this one relationship get you down. I was down for too long and then someone else came along. He swept me off my feet and we have been dating for 11 months. Life is too short. Get out, meet new people. If you have her number in your phone DELETE it and get rid of any of those pics on your dresser or in your wallet. Being heartbroken is one thing, but you will get over it, it's been a year, you need to get out and meet new people.

People change, people move on. It's just a part of life, so don't let it ruin your life, instead look at what you had with this woman as a learning experience and let it better your relationships you will have in the future. Good luck!

well i think that love never goes away.. you will always still like them in your heart but you will move on eventually. i stil am not completly 100% over my first love and i still think about him very often and get sad when i think about him. I do have a wonderful bf that i do really like almost love but my ex bf is still on my mind. and it is hard to deal with it i feel your pain. I have no clie how to mend a broken heart, God and time with help though

Listen to: One Republic-All We Are (?)

RHCP-Breaking the Girl

Peter Gabriel-I Grieve, Don't Give Up

Madonna-Take A Bow-Frozen-This Used to be Our Playground(?)-Power of Goodbye

finding someone else speeds up the recovery. people say it takes double the amount of time u went out with the person to get over them but i dont think thats necessarily true.

It just depends on all the variables of the relationship, e.g., the length of it, the seriousness, etc.

Sometimes it can take a little time, sometimes a lot of time.

A while. But I don't let it get to me. Just take it easy and don't channel your thoughts. Keep them broad and open. :) Good luck.

umm depends on how much u really loved the person and u well never be completly over them

get over it woman. go out. get drunk. get laid get paid.